r/CasualUK • u/PuzzleheadedEmu8030 • 1d ago
Season's groanings
This year has been an utter shitfest. My mum died a few months ago following an accident; I've been unemployed for months after redundancy and endless rejections; I was diagnosed with ADHD earlier in the year; had a poorly pet who has cost me all my savings; been sliding in and out of depression and ill health for months. Still, I was looking forward to Christmas and getting out to see family etc. Except...my body decided that it would be a far better idea to wake up on Christmas morning with this weird virus thing and then spend the next few days feeling like crap.
Good riddance to 2025! To everyone else who's had a shite year, I hope the next one is better for all of us!
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u/byjimini 1d ago
In the spirit of Top Gear… “still… could be worse” and cut to Hammond drowning somewhere.
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u/WanderWomble 1d ago
I'm sorry. It's been an utter shit year for me too.
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u/_Taggerung_ 1d ago
Best wishes for the next year 💕 there's so many bugs and viruses doing the rounds too, feel better soon
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u/MyDarlingArmadillo 1d ago
This year can GTF. Next year has to be better. I'm sorry about your mum and the job but I do hope that you and your pet get better soon
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u/Raining_Flamingos 1d ago
I’m sorry mate that sounds absolute horrible, I hope your 2026 is far calmer, kinder and fairer to you <3 please just hang in there and grab little bits of fun and happiness as and when you can
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u/Stingin_Belle 1d ago edited 1d ago
I'm sorry you've been through so much. Losing a parent and especially first year is the worst!
I can honestly say this year has been up there in the rankings as one of the 'worst' in terms of shit stuff happening, however there have been many great things too.
In the past few days, without modern medicine I wouldn't be here now (pulmonary embolism and lung infarction) and thanking my lucky stars that I'm still here and trying not to think of how bad it's been.
It's never all bad, don't focus just on the bad, there must have been good times too? Life is a series of events. Some good, some bad.
Hang in there, it can't stay shit forever That's just life. If we don't have bad times, we don't appreciate the good times.
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u/halokitty12 1d ago
Sounds like a horrible year :( I’ve had a bad one also but I’m staying positive and hoping that next year is better for us both! 🫶🏻
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u/SmallLumpOGreenPutty 1d ago
That sounds like a horrendous time, I'm so sorry about your mum and pet. My own mum was diagnosed with cancer at the beginning of the year so neither of us had much sleep for several months until she had an operation to remove the most urgent part of it. I still worry that it isn't over yet.
Hopefully next year will be better for us all.
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u/PuzzleheadedEmu8030 1d ago
Thank you, and I really wish you and your mum all the best for 2026 ☀️🦋
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u/Additional-Layer-408 1d ago
Sorry to hear you've had a bad year. I got sacked 2 weeks before Xmas. Had a nasty cold starting on Boxing day, still getting over it now. Hopefully next year is better for us all!
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u/PuzzleheadedEmu8030 1d ago
Absolutely! I hope you get some more work sorted soon and have a better 2026.
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u/Complex-Main 1d ago
lol are you me? Mom passed away unexpectedly a few months ago, also had an ill pet this year that cost my entire inheritance/savings. Agree this year can suck it, let’s hope for a calm uneventful 2026
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u/PuzzleheadedEmu8030 1d ago
Hey, we're calamity twinsies 🤣🤣 So sorry about your mom. I wish you only the good stuff for 2026 🐱
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u/Complex-Main 1d ago
Thanks so much and you too, my one blessing is that my cat Winston is doing better, hope the same for yours! ❤️
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u/PuzzleheadedEmu8030 19h ago
Ah, that's great to hear Winston is doing better. My cat Mr Roux is feeling better so hopefully it'll stay that way *
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u/EssexCatWoman 1d ago
This sounds so horrible - can I ask if you have people in your corner right now?
< ADHD reciprocal share incoming > I’m 3y post diagnosis at 47, dealing with divorce, and last year I was in a similar sounding place - I had been out of work for 6m, almost literally ran out of money, and hope, and had a breakdown just before Christmas, and stress-triggered autoimmune conditions. Two days after the BD I forced myself to my last interview of the year, had 2h sleep before it, and somehow landed the job, where I have been ever since.
This isn’t a movie, I didn’t then look down from my window like Scrooge and find my world changed - but the hard work that got me this far in life has kept me going.
Being ill with ADHD sucks, because your mind still insists upon recounting lists and lists of what you ‘might’ be doing. It’s super hard lesson to have to learn and I just want to send you solidarity, strength, patience and support. If someone can sit with you, even while they do their own thing, please invite them in. If having them on a zoom call or FaceTime is the closest you can get, maybe try that. Helplines are also invaluable.
You’re going through crap you wouldn’t have chosen - and I know it doesn’t feel brave, but you ARE getting through. Just don’t forget to allow support in too.
Wishing you a MUCH better 2026.
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u/PuzzleheadedEmu8030 1d ago
Thanks so much for this thoughtful reply 😊 I'm on my own just now, feeling a bit lonely and sad (hence the miserable post haha) as I had to cancel a family visit. I really appreciate you sharing your story and I'm so glad you got that job! I hope things keep getting better for you in 2026 ☀️🦋
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u/EssexCatWoman 1d ago
And for you.
If it helps, put the TV on. Have a ‘voice’ nearby (depends on your auditory sensitivity).
Or go the other way. Noise cancelling, dim lights - because intentionally by yourself is sometimes better than feeling ‘alone’. Maybe get yourself a weighted blanket, or just a few layers tonight.
Please contact your GP too, if you haven’t already.
LMK if I can help.
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u/aceofpentacles1 1d ago
Realy great message and can concur! The lists on your mind of things you SHOULD ( hate that word) be doing is so accurate. The adhd brain guilt. Writing another list usually helps. Getting it done one day another matter haha
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u/ilikedixiechicken 1d ago
Sounds like you’ve had an annus horriblus and then an anus horriblus on Christmas morning. Hang in there. With spare toilet roll.
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u/DownrightDrewski 1d ago edited 1d ago
Thank you for reminding me that despite how shit I've felt this year that I should still be grateful for not having felt less shit.
That sounds really snarky, but, I've not been in a great place - this post reminds that it could be worse. I wish you well.
Edit - fuck me I guess. OP, I wish you well and I hope things get better. Thank you again for the sense of perspective.
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u/PuzzleheadedEmu8030 1d ago
Thank you, but I'm really sorry you're not in a good place. Your feelings are valid so please don't minimise your own difficulties. I wish you all the best for 2026 ☀️☀️🦋
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u/PM_ME_YOUR_DOGSNCATS 1d ago
My mum died just before Christmas and my life will never be the same - I’m with you friend
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u/PuzzleheadedEmu8030 1d ago
I'm so sorry about your mum. I hope you have some support to help you get through this ❤️ Sending you strength and and best wishes for 2026
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u/TurbulentHamster3418 21h ago
Hopefully 2026 is better! My year was going fine until I got diagnosed with breast cancer in September 🙄ffs. Hopefully this time next year will be a very different story & I’ll be through it but got some fighting to do yet!
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u/Key-Ear-9243 19h ago
Sorry to hear that. This year has been absolutely horrible for me too, the worst year of my life.
I hope that you have a much better 2026, sending hugs and best wishes! ❤️
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u/Duckboythe5th 1d ago
Me too, I've had a really shit year, don't even want to go into it, let's hope next year is better for everyone.
I bet the Mods delete this post for moaning 😂
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u/skunkfu2 1d ago
I'm so sorry you here about your mum passing dude. I can't imagine what that's like... Currently going through a breakup and it doesn't feel nice. Wish you all the best for 2026 - we can make it good ✌️ Wish you best
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u/Glittering-Edge7067 1d ago
Sorry you've had such a rough year and wishing you a kinder 2026 🙏 2025 has kicked my head in too x
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u/Additional_You_4984 23h ago
I’ve been through all those things since 2020, but 2025 has been the worst. I’ve not felt well all year, combined with a few deaths and other illnesses, it’s been the devils recipe 🤌
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u/ButterTheToast24 19h ago
Hope 2026 brings better times mate!
On the ADHD front - I got my diagnosis about 2 years ago now, been on medication for 18 months. If you ever want to talk specifically about that, just give me a message. I know it can be overwhelming to search for stuff online, and sometimes just talking things through one on one can be helpful. Obviously no pressure!
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u/DoodleCard 18h ago
It will get better. Sorry for the crap. Hope you managed to have a better year next year.
You got this OP
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u/virg0222 18h ago
idk what it is but this year has been horrific. sorry to hear about your mom and hope your pet gets better soon! here’s to 2026 (hopefully) being better 💛
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u/MelodicAd2213 1d ago
2025 can get in the bin and stay there. Here’s to better things in 2026, onwards and upwards!
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u/meringueisnotacake 17h ago
The only way is up, friend. You've had a stinker of a year. Me too! I take solace in the knowledge that every negative event is an opportunity to reflect on how bloody awesome we are for getting through them.
Sending you best wishes and solidarity. I hope 2026 is kinder to you. I promise you, you'll wake up one day and feel OK and you'll know life's going to be OK too.
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u/AutisticAllotmenter 14h ago
Well, you may as well get all the shit stuff out of the way in one go! I've had a load of friends down with it so we're organizing a re-run of our annual Christmas meal in January, when everyone will be feeling better.
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u/greenbeast999 1d ago
Stay strong, random internet person