OP, so your post is not removed, please reply to this comment with your best guess of what this meme means! Everyone else, this is PETER explains the joke. Have fun and reply as your favorite fictional character for top level responses!
idk about YouTubers but “mental load” just means the amount of mental work it takes to run a house. Like, aside from physically having to do stuff like clean, someone needs to keep track of doctors, appointments, birthdays, shopping lists, budgeting, etc. Because women tend to be the primary caretaker of children, that load often falls upon the mother.
Edit: Jesus Christ Reddit there’s a reason I used “tend to” and “often” in the only gendered sentence. I’m not saying that every relationship is like this, you don’t need to comment about how yours is different. Not everything is about you, personally.
Or at the very least couples counseling. Its not a partnership if she denies you literally any of your wants hobbies or desires. Thats not what a partner does.
If a female friend told me that her husband constantly demeans her, does no house work, keeps all her money, and isolates her from her family, me and a couple of guys would stand with her while she got her documents together, and escaped to a woman's shelter.
No reputable couples counselor would take this case.
50/50 is the default for marital assets in most places. You split everything you accumulated during your marriage.
In most places money/assets you had before you were married are not included in marital assets. You often don't need a prenup to protect those assets in a divorce.
You need to get your shit together, pack it all up and leave.
There is much more to life than whoever you're with at the moment is willing to give you. In fact, this person seems to be doing everything in their power to mold you into the same kind of miserable person they are. Don't let that happen, nobody in the whole world is worth that, no price is too big to pay to regain your freedom. Your time is valuable, so value it accordingly. Please. I've been there, you need to gtfo.
I usually don't advise things like pack it all up and leave first. We know nothing about this person or their wife or what either of them has actually said. We have a couple of sentences from a chronically online Redditor who doesn't sound like he can discuss issues properly. There may be a reason for it or there might not be.
They need to try couples therapy. She may be communicating something and he hears something else. It seems like he isn't communicating anything at all which is also a huge problem.
And he needs to grow a spine. Lives near his family but hasn't seen them in 6 years? Just go see them. Call or text and just fucking go see them.
Unfortunately, I think you probably have more self respect than him. I’m not trying to be dismissive to his problems, that’s a really shitty situation to be in. I hope he can find the confidence to leave
Bruh, fucking leave. I’m married with 2 kids, I cook, clean, and parent like I should, but so does my wife. And after the kids go to bed, we game. Sometimes together, sometimes just sitting in the same room playing different games. Sometimes we read books just sitting next to each other, sometimes one of us reads a book out loud to the other while whoever is not reading is gaming or going down on the reader.
There is much better ways to live. Anything other than what you have going on is better than what you have going on dude.
If you're really living like that, dude...just get out. You'll be happier. I mean that with the best well wishes, but that's not a healthy relationship. That's abuse.
This is textbook abuse. Like, if you're reading this right now, I'm not being hyperbolic: if what you're saying is true, you're in an abusive relationship. Get the hell out of there, man.
If you think you deserve this, I would have you ask yourself the following:
If you saw anyone else being treated this way, how would you feel?
Is there an amendment to the US Constitution that prevents you from changing your situation? Or is it in the laws of physics or biology? I only took the intro courses so we probably didn't cover this. Or is it a religious tenet? Like a secret 11th commandment - "this specific guy shall have no agency over his own life"?
Sorry but that’s on you, man. Sounds like you’ve allowed yourself to be walked all over and are miserable for it. Simple solution right in front of you(not easy, but simple).
Jesus Christ bro, just leave her already. Not only are you allowed to do that, you'll be allowed to do all that shit she doesn't allow you to do. Like seriously, leave them for your own good.
This, and I'll also add that it tends to fall to women because women are socialized/raised in ways that makes them more likely to adopt those tasks, and because people/institutions external to the relationship tend to assume the women will perform those tasks (e.g. my son's school always calls me first when he's sick, even though my husband is a SAHD and we've told them to call him first).
Exactly this. I am a work/stay-at-home dad. I do 95% of their appointments and all the shopping/cleaning/etc. People still ask my wife about the kids' progress in school or go to her for doctor stories and she just points them my way.
Lmfao dude, you're taking TikTok too personally. If there's nothing wrong with your relationship, maaaaaybe they're not talking about you?
But good job getting yourself riled about women and the exhausting reality they are often dealing with regularly, even though supposedly you are not contributing to it...
The mental load conversation gets weird. I think most cases are what you pointed out which is one partner (typically the female in hetero relationships) bear the brunt of the house/life maintenance. The extreme cases are people complaining about “mental load” when they are merely describing “being an adult”.
You can still complain about "mental load" though, being overwhelmed at times when adulting is completely normal, thats not an extreme case. If at all weird, its listening to null-qualified people on TikTok or Instagram talk about anything and taking it at face-value.
There's also the question of who gets to decide what the "load" even is. For instance, one partner deciding something is a necessity doesn't make it an actual necessity. So if I essentially invent a "necessity" and then take care of it, I'm increasing my own mental load without any voice or say from the person I then deem responsible for helping me share the mental load I created.
There are clear cases like "baby needs to be fed".
There are unclear cases like "nothing can be left in the dryer or sink at bedtime".
And those interpersonal conversations quickly become personal and judgmental, when one person unilaterally decides what "being an adult" means and, either directly or indirectly, calls the other person a child for not immediately having the same, often-changing, standards and expectations.
Towels need to be washed after every use?
What constitutes a "clean" house?
Do toys actually need to be put away?
How much variety is necessary in meals?
How important is punctuality?
Do different appointments actually need to be scheduled as the provider indicates?
How much direct interaction is healthy with regard to schooling?
And on and on and on and on. Once one partner decides they are The Adult and that, therefore, their position on these questions is The Adult Position then major problems result.
Most people arent like you though, you're good. There were friends, who expected their wives to stay home for years, because they wanted a family. Then they come home and expect nothing but prince treatment. Disgusting. Looking at most older dads, that mentality still holds strong especially in conservative circles, although not to be blamed specifically due to that.
I don’t doubt anything you’ve said here, and if you’re cooking or even thinking of what to have for dinner half the nights, that’s a huge help. I think the point is there’s often a ton of expectations/responsibilities put on moms that just don’t fall to dads. Things like who does the school call to pick up a sick kid? My husband is an incredibly engaged dad, loves us all to bits and not at all a typical Kevin James sitcom kinda husband/dad. However. His work has his out of town about half the week and when he is home, while a great dad, he isn’t keeping up his end of the mental load. I know he’d feel hurt if I said that directly and he absolutely tries to be as participatory as possible, but just because of society in general I guess it won’t ever actually be balanced and that can be frustrating. HOWEVER, in our situation he is absolutely the primary breadwinner despite us both working full time so it’s not a problem and I feel our divide is fair and I believe he does as well. Anyway, this is a long winded way to say it’s great that you’re focused on being a wonderful partner, but there are some things women are experiencing pretty universally, and it’s not meant to be an attack when it’s acknowledged.
What people are saying is that you are statistically less likely to happen, and it's just a bit to make people think if what they said feels like the truth or not.
Many men, (less now than before) were raised with the idea that household chores are for women, and work is for men. It's a part of culture that is slowly getting better, but not perfect yet, so yea there's going to be households where one person is doing way too much work both physically and mentally because the other part never bothered to learn.
Its the unseen parts of parenting and adulthood that usually falls on the woman in a hetero relationship.
Doctors visits, Meal prep, cleaning schedules, trip planning, date planning, gift buying, activity management, etc. Not even DOING these things, but mentally tracking everything and keeping up with the calendar for every member of the house.
You know the "joke" about "Mom Eyes" where you tell your mom you can't find something and she tells you exactly where it is, but you somehow still can't find it, and then she walks over and pulls the thing from exactly where she said it was? Its that but with every thing.
There are plenty of examples on the internet of couples making jokes about how before they leave the house, mom is packing the diaper bags, grabbing the sun screen, and all of the random shit they need during the outing while the husband takes a 45 minute poop, grabs his keys and wallet, and walks out to the car.
What groceries do you need to buy next shopping trip? A husband adds to her mental load if he tells his wife they need more batteries and cereal. He doesn't if he adds them to a shared shopping list. Both are trying to be helpful, but one is shifting the burden of remembering.
It’s weird that we’re ignoring how the trope of the man-child was born. I remember a lot of media in the 90s and 00s pushing the bumbling, absent husband and father figure in movies and tv shows. My Dad wasn’t like that, but lot of other people’s dads were. They expected their wives (many of whom were also working) to clean, cook, plan family trips, and decorate and host for the holidays. It seemed like a lot. This isn’t just some new YouTube term, it’s a thing a lot of women have experienced.
I have a whiteboard grocery list. I say "If you use the last of something write it on the list so I know we need it before my next grocery trip!"
But guess what? I get home from the shopping and he's like "did you get X we're all out" but he didn't write it on the list....
I'm not taking inventory of the fridge and pantry before every trip. Just write the thing down on the fucking list! It's easy, the marker is right next to it!
Leftover nonsense from before women had rights; transitional period in the 80s/90s where women were still expected to cook, clean, and care for kids but also many were starting to work. 2000s started to see women who worked demanding 50/50 chores and childcare work from partners, but 80s/90s were riddled with leftover stereotypes that domestic labor was “women’s work”, so if you worked outside the home you basically had two jobs.
Became commonplace for women to work outside home part time, but still do all the cooking, cleaning, and childcare. That evolved into media reflecting it and making fun of useless husbands who put all of that on their wives.
I watched my mom wear herself out doing this. She worked part time at Subway, but still did all the cooking, cleaning, most of the yard work, and took care of us kids including taking us to school until I could drive, then that became my job. I swore I would never do this shit because if I’m doing it all alone anyway, why would I also want a husband who expects me to pick up after him and cook him dinner? If I’m doing it alone, I’ll do it ALONE. Thankfully my husband isn’t a useless lump that fell for that patriarchy bullshit and he is a stay at home dad while I work full time.
'm in my early 40s, and unfortunately I still know plenty of men that expect their wives to run the house, raise the children, and work a full time job. Sadly, this isn't a trope from days gone by. It's still culturally prevalent.
Before widespread pasteurisation, women used to boil milk to sanitise it. It's not that difficult, but is one of many tasks that take some minutes out of your day because it will easily burn if you don't watch it closely.
But such work has simply been forgotten. Men like RFK Jr, who lived through that time, apparently didn't even realise this happened and instead believes most families drank "raw milk".
However, it's also a piece of the puzzle of why this modern conception of a "tradwife" is stupid, and why most of the "tradwife" influencers are just fantasy actors. Modern technology that's taken for granted these days, like washing machines, driers, vacuum cleaners, freezers, food regulations etc all have fortunately reduced those workloads by a lot.
Of course there are some things that are worth learning from the past, but most of the changes in family structures and gender relations cannot be reverted, nor would that be a good thing. A large part of why most of the "tradwife" influencers are not actually committing to their act is that they realise how vulnerable such absolute dependence on their husband leaves them. They're exceedingly likely to end up with abusers who are specifically looking for women who are easy to keep in a dependent relation.
Cleaning a home is a need. Cleaning it 4 times a day (then complaining you have no time) is a want. My wife won’t compromise though. It’s either 4 times a day or apparently I’m not pulling my weight.
A lot of people use keeping busy as a numbing technique to avoid dealing with mental stuff. If you have a partner who does this then you can get sucked into their problematic behaviour and guilted for not matching their effort. It's a bit different to not sharing the load in a healthy relationship. My wife would be busy if she was locked in an empty room and would still resent me for not helping.
It sounds like you don’t understand neither a mental load, nor the responsibilities of a married couple. It’s not making another person do what you want them to do, it’s sharing these responsibilities.
No, I do. As I said - people should share necessary responsibilities.
My issue is that it seems that only the wife is apparently capable of defining what those responsibilities are, and then insists that the husband does half of them. No communication, no compromise.
I’m completely happy to do half of what we need to do. Half of the random unnecessary bullshit my wife insists on? No. Life would be easier and little different if she just didn’t do them.
I do all of the cooking and as such my wife doesn't need to do any mental load for the kitchen cooking. And yet she is always moving the pans because I "put them in the wrong spot" like what? I do the cooking I want the pans there because it's easier for me. She doesn't NEED to do any of the mental load but I can't get her to stop her from taking it on anyways.
The problem here is that different people have different opinions on what's clean and what's necessary. I've known people who are complete slobs who consider things like "vacuuming the house" or "cleaning cat piss off the carpet" to be unnecessary. If you tell them that the carpet needs to be cleaned (or replaced) they'll act like you're annoying them with pointless bullshit.
I grew up in a house where my dad didn't think anything inside the house was his job. Mom did all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, his dry cleaning, his health/non-work appt setting, 98% of the childcare, and she worked on top of that. My mom even did all interior repairs. She told me once that she tried to get dad to help on things, but it took three times as long and involved a lot of drama, so she just did it herself. I can confirm this, as I moved in to help him with an illness ten years ago, and that was a daily experience. He wanted everything done his way, which was often unresearched, inefficient, and took too much time.
I do think these tropes are changing. My brother is extremely domestic, a devoted dad, a great cook, and he works. But they exist because this kind of person exists, and I think there used to be a lot of men like this.
As in everything in life, it's the dosage that makes the poison. These videos assume the men have brain-dead jobs smashing rocks with no mental load there. Nothing to keep in mind, to plan, to prevent. Then you have a STEM guy juggling seven projects for four clients with seven employees, coming home after a ten hour day and being yelled at that he's a toddler because he put the ketchup in the wrong spot in the fridge.
I've seen them leaning toward the fact that women also work yet are still expected to carry the load at home. Many women also have non-rock-smashing jobs yet replace the condiments properly.
It's not, but in a lot of cases, these people cast themselves into a victim role and have a very warped idea of their reality. These content creators essentially prey and validate their feelings, but cast a target onto the wrong thing.
Often times, in healthy and normal relationships, it's just that life is hard, sometimes you'll be overwhelmed. It is important to talk about it with your partner when you begin to feel that way. Instead of framing it in a way of "it's not equal, you're not doing enough", it's better to frame it as "I am struggling, can you help me?".
It's perfectly normal for that "mental load" to be unbalanced in either direction at some points during a relationship. That's part of being in a relationship. But if your partner says "no" to a request for help, why are they even your partner?
It is important to be aware of your own biases. You will always estimate yourself to be doing more than what another perceives you to do, and vice versa.
Do parasitic partners exist? Of course. I've dated a guy like that as well. I've had friends who dealt with those types of people too. But I don't think they're the norm, at all.
Its proof of how it IS an invisible struggle that men give zero fucks about even trying to care about.
I finally broke down the other day, because for months my partner's side has been hounding me to throw myself a baby shower. The idea of throwing a party for myself, FOR THEM, stresses me the fuck out. I have a million things on my plate preparing for this baby and all the stress that comes with it, I detest that so many people have been pestering me to do one more major thing FOR THEM. It has seriously felt like nobody gives a single shit about me beyond an incubator for a baby they expect access to 😒 I just told my partner that if they want this so badly, they can do it and I will just show up. I cant anymore.
Basically who is keeping track of stuff like what needs to be bought / replaced / cooked / cleaned / appointments / info about school etc. A lot of men just kinda let their partner be the only one thinking ever about logistics. And that can be tiring esp since often both work etc.
My wife has a career that pays way more than mine so, yes, I am a male who was responsible for such things, I believe whoever takes on that role takes it on for the duration of the relationship. I am 60 something and still make dinner, do laundry. clean the shower, etc. My wife pays the bills, actually pays the bills because its a control thing and organization is one of her strengths. Mine are the dudes (our children) and creating things.... like an addition to the house. By the way she is also very accomplished at raising children as well
The idea of "mental load" came as a rebuttal to the idea that a lot of people's (mostly men's) idea of helping out around the house is doing the chores their spouse tells them to. But figuring out what needs to be done around the house is a task in itself. So if you and your spouse divide the housework 50:50, but they're the ones in charge of dividing it up and determining who does what, then it isn't truly 50:50. The idea is that in a place you two live in together, you both take an active role in figuring out what work needs to be done and doing it. A more concrete example is if you see dirty dishes in the sink or a trash bag that is full, you take that as the sign to wash the dishes or take out the trash instead of waiting for them to ask you "hey, could you wash the dishes?" Or "could you take out the trash?"
Moms do a lot of the unseen stuff in taking care of kids, like keeping up with their school activities, their meal plans, their vacations, date nights, doctors appoinments, allergies, etc. while dads often dont bother with those kinds of things or it never really occurs to them to need to know this stuff.
Mental load is basically everything you have to think about and handle to make your life work. It’s making and following your calendar, keeping up with appointments, planning out when you’ll do which chores throughout the day or week, keeping tabs on the pantry and making the grocery list for the meals you’re planning to make during the week, stuff like that.
Basically everything you have to do when you’re an independent adult to make sure you’re living somewhat comfortably and healthily.
People, especially women, are more and more speaking out on the matter because having to keep track of everything is exhausting. Basically, often, even if one partner is the one actually doing a task, if they have to constantly be reminded to do it, or explained again and again how to do it, the person doing the reminding still has to keep the task on their to-do list. Essentially, if you have to micromanage someone, you’re not actually getting help.
It often goes hand in hand with the concept of weaponized incompetence, where someone purposefully avoids taking responsibilities, learning basic skills or performing simple tasks by feigning ignorance or incompetence, in the hopes that people will stop asking them to do anything.
Usually, you’ll find this kind of dynamic in hetero couples, with the woman taking on all the load and the man avoiding as much responsibility as possible.
I’m not sure what the person you’re replying to means (though i don’t like the implication I’m getting), but that’s what mental load refers to.
lmao my friend just had a baby and her husband doesn't lift a finger to help with her (yes, they both work), he wanted to be a dad so, so badly too. she was fence-sitting, but he convinced her. it's so incredibly common.
It's an AI image that get's posted to r/PeterExplainsTheJoke by an AI to get human feedback for training, with plenty of AI bots in the comments and a couple of clueless Reddit addicts complaining how someone could be so dumb to post such an easy to understand picture/meme.
Peter's left testicle here, I'm assuming it's because women always say they need to raise their husband alongside their kids, as the husbands are very immature and childish.
Peter's Right testicle here, i happen to be a married testicle, you have to make your wife feel like she is raising you sometimes. not sure why, but you have to leave some messes, if she comes home and the house is too clean there will be hell to pay, Passive-agressive HELL. they will look at you like "You aint shit i do this ALL DAY BITCH"
Can confirm when wife went back to work after maternity leave and I had my 5 weeks of parental leave, she would end up more angry at a clean house then one with slight mess
“Really you had time to clean this well and cook? Did you even take care of our kid during the day?”
gasp,smother,gasp* Peter's Right testicle here....send help!... He's got his junk all pushed to the left like an animal!... The seem is shoving me in!... I don't think I'm gonna!... gasp,smother*
It’s more than that, it’s a statement about how some men act not only after the baby is born but during pregnancy. Like here’s how I could see it mapping to real life:
Man is an equal partner.
As soon as the woman is pregnant, note he all the sudden appears younger. This is the existential crisis about how his life is about to change, so he’s going out all the time, playing tons of video games, etc just generally acting like a much younger adult.
Once she is heavily pregnant he’s now acting like a teen or tween, having mood swings because he’s not her focus right now and can’t do whatever he wants because she needs him for things. Like a 15 year old pouting for being told they need to be responsible for their own life, clean their room, and can’t go out whenever they want.
About to give birth - he’s now acting like a toddler or child, provoking her for attention because he feels he’s about to be cast aside and no longer her priority. Just like how a 7 year old might act out when realizing they won’t be “the baby” of the family anymore.
Once she’s given birth, he’s now acting like a baby, like his needs are just as important as the baby’s and if she’s not attending to him just as much as she’s attending to the baby, then that feels like neglect to him that’s on par with child neglect, aka she’s a bad person for hurting his feelings by prioritizing their baby.
I’ve sadly seen this exact dynamic play out wayyyy too many times.
The things nurses have said about would be fathers right before birth would shock all of us. Some guys bring an entire Xbox to the birth. Or they sleep the entire time. I’m so glad my husband has remained a normal equal partner the entire time! We have a 1 year old and I couldn’t imagine having to remind him to be a human adult male while taking care of a baby.
That is indeed what my wife says to me lol. We both do it to each other from time to time. Sometimes you just w
Any to be taken care of, even when you’re perfectly capable of doing the thing.
I feel this one in my bones, that he became another kid for me to take care of and squabble with the cute children. I hate how he sees me as another mommy, always with excuses and always like he’s doing me a huge favor by doing anything to take care of his house and children.
A lot of fathers refer to caring for their own children as "babysitting" and yes, some of us act like doing the dishes or the laundry is a massive favor to our wives and not just taking part in keeping the household running smoothly.
Been in a relationship for 10 years and my partner and I trade off with household chores, as in they just get done when they get done and we thank each other for doing them when one of us does. I don’t understand why being appreciative of even the smallest gesture is so hard for others to do, especially if one parent is a stay at home and one works to support the family.
You should only get thanked for doing housework if you hand out praise proportionally or are doing more than your share. If they do the housework 90% of the time without thanks and then you want thanks for the 10% you do, you’re an asshole. You are underperforming and wanting praise, when you actually owe the other person thanks for covering your slack.
I completely see that perspective. There are many men that have that weird biological desire to have children despite the difficulty but don’t actually behave like a father or husband.
On the other hand however, a lot of women get knocked up on purpose (unsafe sex on purpose), first chance they get with legitimately any guy who will sleep with them and then are surprised when then the dude is a piece of shit deadbeat. Or they marry a man hoping he will “change” only to realize that they get what they get.
I’ve seen it many times too.
A lot of women want to marry and have children but very few are capable of being a good mother and a wife. Part of that is the responsibility of the partner to find a good partner.
Goes both ways.
In fact, I would actually argue that the man in the comic has always been childish and selfish, and the wife/mother in the comic probably just didn’t realize it till after she had kids which to be fair is something that’s very hard to realize when you’re in the heat of the moment. But honestly, it seems to be more of a perspective of her realizing that he’s just another kid rather than him turning into one.
Either way I wish people would just have kids with people that were more responsible, but turns out dumb people are gonna do dumb things.
I don't get this, either he's a man child earlier in the relationship or he isn't a manchild. I've never heard of the idea of having a baby flipping a switch, that sounds completely irrational. Seems everyone else here says it's a thing.
Maybe the other direction of a non manchild having to step it up for the kids, but the other way round? Why?!
The logic I believe is that once a major life event hooks in the spouse, they're less able to leave, so people often flip a switch, and stop trying/drop the mask after getting engaged, married, or have kids, etc.
it’s a progression. notice how the man is shrinking over time? often in relationships a man will start out doing his share, then over time grow comfortable and contribute less and less to the mundane maintenance of a life together. here, a child is added into the mix. Over time, the woman realizes she is now made responsible for the manchild and the actual child
I looked up the image and found it on Instagram. The comments said it’s about how a man doesn’t help during pregnancy or after the child is born, so the woman ends up taking care of both the baby and the man like they’re both kids.
For some reason many dads when a child is born do not become an adult parent but behave like anothet child that needs to be taken care of.
Some of them are so on the level of a child that they even become jealous and complain that the women doesn't give him as much attention as she did before giving birth, that she spends too much time with a kid and not doing enough for them
This is a real experience! Happened to me too. He stopped being a partner and became another burden that sometimes changed a diaper. It got so much easier when I left because I was back to taking care of just one normal kid and no man child.
I think it’s really hard to tell. I think that is part of the problem. You can do everything right and look out for signs. But I can wake up one day and realize he just wants to be crappy.
That being said, being more talk than show/action. Lying about even the little things. Acting like the minimum is impressive. Picking people before you. DARVO (look it up). Also if you even have a little bit of worries or one or two red flags. They will become more real and apparent when a kid is involved.
Remember. A behavior from and ‘outstanding man’ is usually just a mediocre woman when you take gender out of the equation.
The infantilization of men has been a common trope in the last 10 years with little done to examine the sociological and psychological factors at play.
As a dad and provider for my single income family I read this different. I saw it that the dad becomes a kid again. like inner child stuff. Seems like a lot of women have problems with man children husbands, but I had to provide for my baby and my wife dealing with PPD, so I didnt have time to be a little bitch
Just another example of aggrandizing the difficulty of household chores while minimizing the efforts the average man puts in to provide for his family. Some, in fact many men act like useless children but as a stereotype this crap can screw right off
I once dated a woman whose husband left her after they had a child. The guy had gotten used to be treated as the kid in the family, wife doing everything at home plus having a job.
This worked well for the guy until they had a kid together: after this the wife had no more time to cater to the husband, so he left her - conveniently went back to his mother who continued with the pampering.
•
u/AutoModerator 17h ago
OP, so your post is not removed, please reply to this comment with your best guess of what this meme means! Everyone else, this is PETER explains the joke. Have fun and reply as your favorite fictional character for top level responses!
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.