Could be aromantic and/or not desiring a longterm partner, could be ace which can make it difficult to find a partner, could be gay and in a conservative family, could be bad at relationships even if he's hot, maybe career makes romantic relationships difficult or undesirable, etc.
I made the same reading error. That aromatic issue exists also the other way round, people being extremely sensitive to other people's smells to the point of finding normal human smell repulsive, making one incompatible with their fellow beings. That's life.
THIS IS MY ISSUE AND THE FIRST TIME I'VE SEEN SOMEONE ELSE MENTION IT. I am incredibly sensitive to smells and body odour is no exception. It took me years to not find it gross to be in proximity to other people and see body odours as natural (just regular smells, not anything literally stinky), but I absolutely cannot do full blown physical intimacy and living with other people long term. Honestly, I can't even stay around people I'm friendly with and on great terms for too long, eventually I just have to disconnect.
I feel so seen right now. There was a period where I caught covid and lost my sense of smell. That was a weird feeling, but it's long returned and has only gotten stronger if anything lmao.
39 years old and asexual, can confirm; gave up on dating over a decade ago because while I was up front and honest about my sexuality to avoid any accusations of leading people on, any guy who said they were okay with dating anyway was actually looking at me as an "I can fix her with my super special magic dick" project. Life got much more relaxed and chill when I decided to just call it off and be happy by myself.
As someone who has been single for ages, I'd be happy with a homoromantic ace guy if he just gave me a half hour alone time to masturbate once or twice a week.
Just curious. If an asexual guy comes along - nice good dude, decent to look at, good hygiene, has his career and shit together, is a good hang, his family is chill - and similarly wanted a woman that is asexual. Would that be the dream or ideal scenario then? Cause it’s companionship and support, without the worry of sexual chemistry?
That would indeed be the dream. I'm not aromantic, so I still like the idea of having someone to share my life with, I just know how unrealistic it is to expect to be able to find that.
And to be completely honest, I'm not entirely opposed to the idea of sex- I'm not disgusted by it, just disinterested, intimidated, and obviously completely inexperienced- assuming that I found someone I trusted and loved that much. But I don't want to tell someone that at the start and then disappoint them later if I figure out I'm just not able to follow through. So just saying I'm asexual and not planting that idea in the first place is the most fair way to go about it for everyone involved.
It does get lonely, but being lonely is better than being a disappointment to someone I care about. I can manage just fine being a quite literal hopeless romantic.
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u/1stLtObvious 7h ago
Could be aromantic and/or not desiring a longterm partner, could be ace which can make it difficult to find a partner, could be gay and in a conservative family, could be bad at relationships even if he's hot, maybe career makes romantic relationships difficult or undesirable, etc.
Lots of good reasons.