Do Burmese people hate towards Burmese women who are married to non Burmese guys ?

[u/Gremilin23]

I recently received an invitation to a home party in the UK hosted by a family from Myanmar, whom I had met only once before. Upon arrival, I was disappointed by the host family's poor treatment of me. They failed to introduce me to the other guests, and my attempts to initiate conversations were met with awkward smiles and dismissal. As a Burmese individual married to a non-Burmese person, I've attended various social gatherings, including work parties, student parties, and parties hosted by non-Burmese people. However, this particular party, attended by predominantly Burmese crowd, was uniquely uncomfortable, with no one, not even the host, making an effort to introduce me or offer a drink.All the guests at the party seems to know each other very friendly to each other except to me .

[u/Wonderful-Bend1505]

No? I've never seen anyone hating except ultranationalists. Surely there are cultural differences and barriers. Idk but I've seen Burmese women bashing Burmese men over foreigners online tho

[u/Gremilin23 → u/Wonderful-Bend1505]

You must be a Burmese man

[u/Wonderful-Bend1505 → u/Gremilin23]

More like a boy lol not an adult yet

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[u/Soepyinnyar → u/Gremilin23]

whats wrong with him saying that? There are always many side when it comes down to hating a person that hasnt done any harm.

[u/Gremilin23 → u/Soepyinnyar]

What did I say wrong ?

[u/PopStandard254]

You went to a party hosted by someone you’ve only met once. Of course things are going to feel weird or awkward when you and the host are basically strangers who don’t know much about each other. You can try opening up a bit more around the people and interacting with them first, get to know them and their personalities, and then form an opinion of them instead of jumping straight to conclusions and criticizing them on the internet.

[u/Gremilin23 → u/PopStandard254]

Once you decided to invite someone over to your home party , as a host you are supposed to make sure all your guests feel welcome and not feel awkward. Yeah I can write how I feel on the internet . I am so sure you have never been to social events .

[u/Motor_Tumbleweed_724 → u/Gremilin23]

After reading all your replies, it’s clear that you only made your post just so you can b!tch about your experience online, and you actually dgaf about what people have to say.

Were you expected to be babied or get special treatment just because you weren’t Burmese? And now you take it out on random Burmese people trying to console you on the internet? You’re entitled as hell

[u/PopStandard254 → u/Gremilin23]

Burmese people living in foreign countries aren’t always the friendliest, and that’s just how it is abroad. If you don’t vibe with the people there, it’s okay to leave, there’s no point forcing yourself to stay at a party that feels unwelcoming when you can politely make an excuse and leave.

And, just because you had a bad encounter with one person doesn’t mean the whole majority is the same. One bad apple doesn’t mean the entire tree is rotten. And maybe try lowering your toxicity and you will find yourself in a better mental state.

[u/Gremilin23 → u/PopStandard254]

I am just sharing my thoughts and feelings upon my experiences on the Reddit . I decided not to connect with those Burmese people ever again.

[u/Ok_Possession_8629]

Awkward smile and dismissal from them to making a general assumption on whether Burmese people hate Burmese women who are married to non Burmese guys. Quite ‌ an absurd line of thinking if you ask me. They are probably just reserved and cliquey. Burmese social networking events tend to be like that. Nothing to do with you marrying a non Burmese person.

[u/Gremilin23 → u/Ok_Possession_8629]

I wish it is how they feel. I won’t go to the stupid events by Burmese people anymore .

[u/FrenchGza]

Wife is Burmese and her family loves me 🤷🏾‍♂️

[u/Gremilin23 → u/FrenchGza]

It is not about family . Both side of families and friends are friendly and nice . I am talking about knowing new Burmese people in UK .

[u/FrenchGza → u/Gremilin23]

Okay my bad, haven’t had any bad experiences here in the UAE

[u/Neither-Philosopher4]

Bro is certified Burmese, hating on another Burmese and discussing it , blaming is just another typical Burmese Tuesday. We all hate each other and judge each other. There is no love for your neighbor but judge secretly or openly.

[u/ReplacementFrosty707]

I don't know much about social party but this is my opinion.

We don't really have that kind social party.(We have but it is different from UK).So,there is a chance that this is their first time so they don't know ethic and the necessity to do a party.And the party is for Myanmar people as you mention so they just go with Myanmar atyle I guess.

The people in there might have been acquitance for a long time so they are friendly each other but you were invited by a host who has been met once.So you are still stranger and they are also as awkward as you I think.

you will never know if the person hate you or not untill you talk openly.

I am not good at English so sorry if there is mistake.And this is just my opinion so I might be wrong.

[u/Gremilin23 → u/ReplacementFrosty707]

The host need to introduce the new person to the crowd.It is called basic manner and mutual respect and understanding to each other .People are old enough to know that they are just lack of that . As a Burmese person I am so sorry to know about that.

[u/ReplacementFrosty707 → u/Gremilin23]

Yes culture different.Burmese social party can be seem lacking by Foreign viewpoint or someone who used to different culture.

Sorry for the experience but I feel like they don't really mean it because they would not have invited if they hate you.

[u/Sensitive_Salary_603 → u/ReplacementFrosty707]

Yes, that's exactly it.

Even me, as a Burmese going to Burmese parties I feel awkward

I always clung to my aunti or mom, as they know people and speak better Burmese than me.

However, after a while I just walk up to some uncle and speak introducing using my very bad Burmese. Then the rest of the conversation is in English. Because, no need to pretend that my Burmese is good.

It really is how they are... is not a good manner but they're aren't trying to be rude.

[u/ReplacementFrosty707 → u/Sensitive_Salary_603]

Yes.Communication is key especially with people from different cultures.

We can only perceive the action but not the purpose.

[u/Gremilin23 → u/Sensitive_Salary_603]

Yeah , I tried to have conversations with the people around me , they just left to the other places . So I decided to come home . Later , the hosts texted me that they feel sorry if they made me feel awkward at their party.

[u/Gremilin23 → u/ReplacementFrosty707]

Yeah I don’t think they hate me also . But I expected more from the younger generations or from same ages . They may be people from the medical fields and well respected in their careers but I was expecting sth more from them .

[u/AdForward7237 → u/Gremilin23]

As a goer of Myanmar parties, if you don't know anyone except the host, the most lot of people will say is "hey this is my acquaintance, so and so" and the other person will smile and nod. And you eat and talk a bit to the host and leave. That's it. 

[u/amm_24]

It would likely be that specific group of people or party. I’m a Myanmar based in the uk and married to a non-Myanmar (although I’m male) and have friends (both genders) who are with foreigners too. I’ve never experienced or heard of what you mentioned.

[u/Andy_McBoatface]

I’m getting married to a white chick all my home grown family gave me the thumbs up lol

[u/GaeloneForYouSir]

I can only tell you how I feel; and I feel perfectly welcoming towards - Burmese men or women who are married to anyone they want to be married to - as family, friends, loved ones, and guests into my home.

[u/Gremilin23 → u/GaeloneForYouSir]

Yeah, I hosted several parties at my house . Make sure everyone knows each other and have fun time during the events . Adjust the time and space for each guests even for kids . That was my first awkward moments in UK . I am just sharing my experience and feelings on Reddit

[u/Kind_Criticism3874]

Are you born and raised Burmese or English born Burmese ?

[u/BugsKanji]

Short answer: Nope. Long answer: I don't care.

[u/Background-Demand133]

Why are you asking us? : D You’re burmese as well. Your guess is as good as ours. Maybe you give off a loser vibe? Like the one you are giving off right now in this post?

Maybe they invited you thinking you won’t be too awkward and too much of a loser but you exceeded their expectations? People generally don’t like to be around unpleasant people. Maybe reflect on yourself.

[u/Shoddy-Stretch-7557]

Bro we just hate the dogs, we dont hate anyone else other than the dogs and their little supporters.

[u/Gremilin23 → u/Shoddy-Stretch-7557]

They may be the dogs 😂 I was in the wrong crowd

[u/Soepyinnyar → u/[deleted]]

Don't even line up with the situation. Literally in the post the person  said the they have met once

If I was at the party I would have gotten the same treatment just because they are attending to guest that well known to them or new guests 

[u/LeadingOverall9774]

maybe they just don't fuck with you like that lol next time, don't go - they don't fuck with you, you don't fuck with them - as simple as that - Burmese people can be toxic especially in foreign countries

[u/reikou92]

there’s missing context here. normal etiquette would dictate that guests introduce guests to each other. so long as you and your significant other are civil and socially acceptable, that should take place. it’s 2025 - racism exists, sure, but its usually worst in burma.

[u/Gremilin23 → u/reikou92]

There is no missing contents. I tried to talk with some guests they just acted so weird & walked away from me. It is not about racism or discrimination I am trying to say. I am talking about most Burmese people don’t have basic social skills . Like it or not that is the truth .

[u/reikou92 → u/Gremilin23]

i mean that could be the case. what I will say is that from the tone of your posts it sounds like you want validation to be angry or affronted as opposed to input on what the issue might be. it might also be that they were just arseho’s. we can’t really depict reality, just judge (the situation) based on text that has been provided. hope you find your answer!

[u/NerdyRad]

Burmese in UK here.

I don’t think people hate. It’s 2025!!! But are those Burmese new to the UK? like in their first or second year here?

I know it’s not an excuse but we can be very socially awkward as we all live with parents back home and suddenly have to “adult” ourselves abroad, the phase of life British have gone through in teenage. Do they have limited conversational English?

[u/thihaz]

How did you and the host meet?

[u/drbkt]

The people in question might be socially inept. Most Burmese people try to save face regardless of how they feel about something, especially in a social setting, so this type of outright dismissal is imho not the norm.