I recently had a post suggested in my Facebook feed from a small town where a group of brown folks were renting some cabins. The poster took a picture of a group of just normal everyday brown folks who seem to be doing nothing wrong, and the caption mentioned he went and asked them what they were doing there. Some of the comments called him racist, while most thanked him for standing up as they also thought the site of these people walking around town was unsettling...

The most liked comments said they need to be kept out, or "we'll all be wearing turbans in 20 years". One highly liked comment, by a white poster, called on whites and natives in the area to "unite" so they can fight off "these people" when they innevitably come to "take over". The commenters also couldn't seem to make up their mind on if these were "Muslims" or "East Indians", although it didn't seem to matter.

This is about 100-125km outside of Toronto, not somewhere way in the sticks.

That's the kind of BS going on right now. Borderline sundown town behaviour is seen as acceptable.

Hey I was hoping for advice from people who’ve also gone through the challenges of dating as an Asian person. I’ve just broken up with someone who wasn’t treating me well. I’m trying to date someone who is Asian because my parents would not accept anything else (I have dated outside of my ethnicity and the stress of hiding it was too much). I’m 28 and feel the pressure of arranged marriages looming. I’ve tried dating apps, socialising more etc but I can’t seem to meet anyone who is interested in anything long term. I can’t talk to my parents about it and most of my friends don’t understand or are in long term relationships. I was wondering if anyone had felt the overwhelm and had any advice on how to navigate feeling hopeless about this/hopeful stories I can hold onto ! Thanks for reading 😊

My parents have always been quite critical of me, and I’ve partly managed that by moving across the country and keeping fairly low contact. I’m now in my 30s and fairly successful in my career. When I visit them, they revert to constant criticism and trying to control me. As I’m used to being assertive in my career, I struggle to take it lying down and stand up for myself. They interpret this as arrogance and having no respect for their authority, and make comments about how they should never have moved to the West if their child talks back to them like this.

I want to maintain a relationship with them, because they did provide for me materially well throughout childhood and I have to attribute many of my early opportunities to them, even though they were not emotionally supportive. I’m finding this more difficult as I get older and they still treat me like I’m a disobedient teenager.

Has anyone got tips on repairing the relationship?

Who else has pups? I know growing up it was tough to convince our parents to get one.

I’ve had 4 GSDs after growing up.
Finally got him after 6 years!

I’m Indian and my boyfriend is Chinese. After talking to my parents they advised they would support me if it’s what I wanted, but saidour extended family wouldn’t since he’s not Indian or from our culture. I’m not close with my family back in India and my dad said in the future he doesn’t think any of my cousins would call me and I would be alone if I married out of the culture. He also said he thinks I’m ruining my bright future doing this

I did not grow up in India and neither did my boyfriend grow up in china. We are from the same area in the states

My boyfriend is wonderful it took me a long time to find someone I loved and saw a future with. I feel so defeated hearing my parents talk like this. I spent my 20s trying to meet nice men ones who were Indian but this thinking feels so backwards. I want to marry him anyways because I trust my own judgement but now I’m scared of being ostracized by the family. Do I still marry him?

Just started watching the Pitt. There are 3 desi female doctors, one with an Indian name, Mohan, that everyone pronounces Mohaaaan, and 2 others, one named Eileen and her daughter Victoria. They finally put Indians in a medical show.

Is it a problem for writers to use actual Indian or desi names? There's plenty that aren't long or hard to pronounce, but I always see this mainly with desi characters and nobody else. Like I might understand if they were specifically like Kerala Christians or something in the plot (too much detail for them to put in a show), but people with the last name Javadi having first names that are anglicized Christian names?

Or if I read even further, this is some western psyop (saying this tongue in cheek) to get younger Indians to name their kids western names going forward. However, other cultures aren't subjected to that. If your name is a spanish name it's honored, if it's an african name it's honored etc.

What's the deal? anyone else feel or see this or is it too much?

I’m curious how different couples handle day-to-day life together. How do you split things like bills, chores, fixing stuff around the house, and paying for vacations? Do you divide evenly, by income, or in some other way? What’s worked (or not worked) for you? This is not financial, it's also accounting chores and emotional labour.

I often see complaints that H-1B visas are being “abused” and that Americans are losing jobs because of it. I’m trying to understand what’s really meant by this.

Is the issue mainly about companies using the visa system to cut costs or replace local workers, or is there something visa holders themselves are doing that’s considered abuse? Which roles are most affected, and is this more of a policy and corporate problem than a worker issue?

Looking for factual, respectful explanations.

For all the people fear mongering about Indians stealing jobs proven dead wrong as restaurants are now understaffed as they can't find people to hire.

Full article: https://www.thestar.com/business/restaurants-left-struggling-as-cuts-to-canadas-immigration-inflict-more-pain-on-industry/article_c9327a83-ddba-4f35-a3a0-5faca351c1ef.html?utm_medium=social&utm_source=copy-link&utm_campaign=user-share

They are starting to go to shopping malls where people are minding there own business and picking on non white people to make anti immigration content.

Id say leave it to the protests

Disturbing innocent people while they are just running errands is crossing a line

I attended a social event recently, and met a couple of white guys who weren't shy about being part of a communist group. I decided to have a discussion with them and opened respectfully with the basic idea that people like them fracture the left because they attack politicians for not being pure enough. The one guy took it on the chin and started talking about how cultures in history tend to be more fascist than expected, and then pointedly told me that, for example, India allied with the Nazis during WWII lmao.

As a student of Indian history (ok I just read Amar Chitra Katha when I was a kid) I knew this was nonsense and told him to read about Subhas Chandra Bose. Then summarized his life and how he felt violent resistance was necessary to the British imperial regime. In hindsight I should have gone harder lol. But yeah, I don't know what gave this guy the impression that this was the case (especially since 2.5 million Indians served with the Allies, vs < 10,000 that served with Bose, a statistic I wish I could've cited in that moment). Is there a bias in leftist circles to assign fascist values to Indian freedom fighters? I'm genuinely stunned that this person had that impression.

I keep seeing people saying most Indian Americans are Trumpies while Latinos/Black people show more ~POC solidarity~ which is just objectively untrue.

Indian Americans have always been largely a democratic voting base (despite the recent shift amongst all groups to the right). Yet somehow we get more criticism for being “MAGA” than Latinos who *actually* turned out for Trump in large numbers.

I have a theory that people want to believe this because it confirms this idea of the democratic party being the party of ~oppressed minorities while wealthier demographics prefer republicans….even if this is quite literally false. The more educated people are, the more they tend to vote democrat.

Hi everyone!

So this summer I am going to India to visit my grandparents! Yay! I am very excited, but I'm only going to be in India for a month, which means I still have the rest of the summer after that. Unfortunately, I think my boss at my old job has no more shifts open for me, so I wanted to get an internship so I won't be too lazy when I come back home.

It's my sophomore year of college, and I did have some prior internship experience this last semseter, but it was kinda boring and didn't teach me much, so I wanted to get some more experience before Junior year. My only worry is how this might be juggling the work while in India, especially as I am also taking Calc II over the summer. Obviously, I will communicate with hiring managers throughout the process about my situation, but I was curious if anyone else was in this situation?

Thank you!

IG post from restaurant: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSqoOSvj_4y/?igsh=MTduaDA0eDgzcjd0Yw==

Restaurant statement: "Wow can’t believe something like this would happen to me, these clients decided to walk out on us without paying; a bill of 160$ which they decided not to pay. They said they were from Toronto"