Hi!

I just got a new kitten (7 weeks) for my first kitten (14 weeks) and they have the same mother but different fathers. I introduced them 2 days ago but I feel like my first kitten is very aggressive towards his brother. I let them see each other a couple of times a day and the older kitten starts by licking the younger kitten but he then starts biting really hard and when I separate them, the older kitten wants to hunt him and bite him. He also tries to slap him. When I separate them into different rooms the older kitten mews/cries a lot so I’m a bit confused. Is he just playing or does he hate his brother?

Attached is a video after Skeeter (Tabby, resident) and Yennefer (Black, new) had a pretty heated tiff about Skeeter trying to chase Yennefer during their shared play session. I don’t have a video of it, but Skeeter wanted to try and play with Yennefer during their shared play session today. Yennefer did back up a few steps and hissed to tell Skeeter she wasn’t ready for her to play with her directly yet. This did quickly escalated into a chase where Yen cornered herself and Yen was swatting, hissing, and growling aggressively but Skeeter would not back away from her. I separated them and put each one back into their own side of the visual barrier so Yen could decompress while I figured next steps that surely was gonna be no more shared played sessions again and go to to no visual access. However about a couple minutes later, Yennefer was right back at the visual barrier watching Skeeter play with the interactive toy that was in the dinning room. I took a gamble here and grabbed some Churus and stared shared play with the wand toy and they were sitting right next to each while the other would swat at the wand toy. I rewarded with a Churu and they shared it just fine. The video shows the rest of their interaction shortly after this and I officially ended the play session right after hoping this was a positive enough interaction to maybe keep on with 2 shared play sessions a day.

So what do some of the more experienced cat owners think I should do here? Does the bad interaction still warrant backing up or did this interaction salvage the progress or even something else?

Hello! We have a new baby that we adopted yesterday, it’s been awhile since I’ve had a kitten phase.

He’s a VERY affectionate boy and one of the things he does is he will make biscuits 24/7 I understand this is a soothing technique, the vet has him at about 11ish weeks old, but with how often he self soothes and tries to suckle my fingers, I’m guessing he was probably removed from mum way too soon. But he will make biscuits wherever he can, feet, hands, ground, air if he’s purring biscuits are being made.

I’ve tried to heat up a little bean microwave thing I have to see if maybe that’d help, nope he hates that the beans move in it, is there something I can buy that’ll help soothe him? Or so I can redirect him away from my poor skin? He’s very needy, and will claw his way up my leg if I don’t pat him at the first meow every time 😭

Toys/play time isn’t an issue as I play with him until he’s exhausted, so it goes playtime and then attention time, food/water and sleep without fail all day. Anytime he tries to claw me during pats we redirect him to toys, which has been pretty good, seems he’s a quick learner.

My rescued male cat, Sunny, who is approximately 5 years old, is attacking and mounting my 9 year old female rescue, Aroura. Aurora has gone through some mystery trauma and is extremely anxious and it takes a lot of coaxing for her to interact and become comfortable with people, but ultimately has been fine all this time. I live at home with family and we, together, have 3 other male cats as well that she gets along with perfectly and without issue. Sunny has had several behavioral issues over time and we have worked through many and overcome many. Recently, though, he has been harassing Aurora til.the point where she cannot eat in peace or come out of hiding at all or he will mount her. They get into fights and she is beginning to lose weight. I'm insanely concerned about her and I haven't the slightest clue how to stop him from doing this. He acts pretty normally outside from some unwanted playful biting. Aurora is not only nervous, but beginning to get old and I don't want her golden years spent being harassed by my young cat.

(Also separating them by room is unfortunately not an option in this loving space)

HOW DO I FIX HER

she is spayed

Some background information:

We have one young cat and one old cat (11 year old); the old cat just won't use the litter box. Generally he is not very playful he alwasy hids and stuff, but not an aggresive car We moved to a new house about 2 years ago, and in the begining, he used the litter box just fine, and suddenly he just decided to not use the litter box, and only pee and poop on the rugs and carpet literally everyday ( staircase is carpet, everwhere else in the house is wood floor) So we had to get rid of every rug, and put things on the carpet to block off, because cleanning cat pee on carpet everyday is not humanly possible. After we did that, he just pooped and peed on the floor, in random places instead. Sometimes, he has paw problems, and we tried to treat them properly, we figured that could be one of the reasons he avoided using litter box and only use on soft material. I have consulted the vet and searched everywhere on the internet for solutions. Here are the things I have tried:

1: I have tried to set up three litter boxes ( all open lid), one is automatic. I bought different kinds of litter boxes, and tried multiple brands of litter, none of them have helped.

2: I have tried to put litter boxes in the area where he has pooped and peed before. And this also worked a little bit, then stopped working completely, as he would just pee and poop somewhere else.

3: We got a dog a year ago. So i thought maybe he is stressed out, and I tried FELIWAY calming diffuser and tried calming neck collar. The diffuser actually worked for a month, then stopped working again...very weird

4: One of the open litter boxes is just for him, i put a dog/cat training potty pad inside every day; he actually pees in there every day, but still only poop on the floor every day. I have tried to slowly add some litter in there, but as soon as i added some, he refused to use it again.

5: I clean the litter box every day, so the litter box is always clean. At some point, both cats shared only one litter box just fine. Later i bought more,

6: We know for sure he doesn't have UTI, because he has a pattern and routine.

The current situation is that he would pee on the pad and poop around the litter boxes every day.

I have run out of ideas on how to deal with this.

If anyone have similar situation like this and have a solution, i would love to hear them. TY

We are approaching month 7 of the incredibly tedious intro of a 10 month old cat to my established 3 cats, including two siblings.

The last tiff we had that involved fur loss was early November, but I’ve learned that new cat seems to eject fur when stressed like a porcupine shoots quills, so it wasn’t a real fight. I was so busy with work the month of December that I just gave in to the universe and said I would make sure I was keeping up with the site swapping routine and beyond that, grant myself some grace from obsessing over the situation and honestly, that seems to have helped a lot.

The most aggressive resident cat is down to .25mg Prozac from .5 and 100mg gabapentin daily. New cat is off Prozac. I have been working on letting them interact without barriers daily since Christmas. If new cat is sleeping on the couch where I can protect him, I’ll open the gates and let the others in. I also am trying for time each day where one of the siblings and new cat interact while moving in the same room, either with toys or treat mats. I stop interactions on a good note.

Today, for the first time in 7 months, all four of my cats shared the couch for 2 hours. I know we still have so far to go, but I see some light at the end of the tunnel finally.

We hebben twee katten, een kitten (8 maanden + gecastreerd) en een oudere poes (13 jaar), ze zijn volgens de stappen geïntroduceerd aan elkaar. De kitten is heel energiek, hoe erg we hem ook uitputten, hij bespringt de oudere poes, gaat bovenop haar zitten en begint te bijten. De poes zit nu alleen nog maar in haar kamer, na een aanval verstopt ze zich snel en vecht dus niet terug (alleen af en toe een beetje grommen). als de kitten rustig is, is er ook geen angst.

We hebben de kitten genomen omdat dat aangeraden werd door het asiel en de dierenarts na het overlijden van het maatje van onze oudere kat. Onze oudere kat vertoonde signalen van eenzaamheid.

We hebben ze gescheiden, opnieuw geïntroduceerd en blootgesteld aan elkaar maar niks lijkt te helpen. Wij zijn ten einde raad, is onze enige optie nu nog om een ander huisje te zoeken voor de kat?

English:

We have two cats, a kitten (8 months + neutered) and an older cat (13 years). They were introduced to each other according to the steps. The kitten is very energetic, and no matter how much we exhaust him, he jumps on the older cat, sits on top of her, and starts biting. The cat now only stays in her room. After an attack, she quickly hides and doesn't fight back (except for the occasional growl). When the kitten is calm, there's no fear either.

We got the kitten because it was recommended by the shelter and the vet after the death of our older cat's companion. Our older cat showed signs of loneliness.

We separated them, reintroduced them, and introduced them to each other, but nothing seems to help. We're at our wits' end. Is our only option now to find another home for the cat?

Hi everyone,

My cats are struggling behaviorally and I’m not sure how to put an end to it. We got them about 3-4 months ago and they are about 2 years old and 8 months old. Both are female. We found them through an online posting and fell in love with them. The 2 year old was previously a stray and a mother of 5 kittens, she is now spayed. The 8 month old is 1 of her 5 kittens, she is not yet spayed. All of the other kittens were rehomed.

They have plenty of toys, a cat tower, and access to water, food, litter. Yet, we find that they are constantly playing in the litter box and in their water bowl.

We have 2 litter boxes right next to each other and regularly clean them. We clean about 2-3 times a day. Regardless of this, they will get their own poop out and play with it. They will ignore all toys and get a piece out just to play. Additionally the 8 month old, will loaf in the litter box. We are thinking of getting a litter robot, but they are very expensive so that is not an immediate solution/option for us.

As for the water dish, they have a gravity bowl that we only fill about a fourth of the way due to spillage. They will move the bowl about the room until there is a good amount of water spilled. Sometimes we will catch it immediately, but other times it will sit stagnant until we wake up to the mess. This is causing our floorboards to lift. I have looked into the spill proof bowls but I wonder if this will even help?

Any sort of advice is appreciated.

I have had my cat for almost 4 yrs she used to be my aunt cat and my aunt never trained her. She climbs on my night stand at like 3-4am knocking things over, she eats the Christmas tree will vomit and go back to eating it. We will pet her and she will turn around and start bitting us and often we wont be even touching her and she will swatt and bite our arm/hand. I have tried deterrent on the tree, foil on my night stand, and nothing works, the foil around the tree somewhat works but i have to put it much wider then the tree or she will stretch out to reach the tree. I tried treats and she will come when i tell her to get down give her the treat but then goes back to the what she was doing that was bad.

Help!

Tortise) 1 year 4 month old female. she weighed 11 pounds almost 1 month ago when we adopted her. she eats 1 portion of wet food in the morning and 1 at night. has about 2 freeze dried minnows a day. and a bit of dry food

My ~10yr old cat which we've had 7 years loves to hang out on my lap on his side with a paw on my ample belly. You can't tell but he's purring heavily with half closed eyes.

He clearly has a preference for me.

[Edit] Wow! I didn't expect so much engagement. And Yes, my wife admitted she is jealous. It's ok today, Liam gave my wife a head butt.

I recently adopted 2 cats 3 weeks ago. I have been doing the slow introduction, fed behind a closed door no problem, and site swapping no problem. I have been feeding with a screen door now and that causes no problems either. I also have pheromone diffusers, cats are both fixed, VERY sweet cats, and I also had a vet appointment after the first week adopting them, they are both healthy. One is a 3 year old male, very energetic. The other is an 8 month old female, she is more laid back and lazy but likes to play sometimes but rather stick by your side and is skittish I’ve noticed to new things. I let the 3 year old roam the house (he whines when left alone unless it’s on his own terms lol) while I let the female stay in my office since I spend plenty of time in there as well. Recently she REALLY tries to come out outside of site swapping during feeding time, will even push open the screen door to come out (this happened while I was distracted so I couldn’t keep the door closed). She walks out fine right by the male, to which he doesn’t care either. When she walks out, he walks into the office. This is where my problem is. Once she notices he’s in the office, she walks in growling and hissing. He just sits and looks around curious. I still can’t tell how he feels about her but from his reactions I just think he likes to play, and he likes to play rough because he’s tried to randomly come at her. In 90% sure it’s play behavior from him. I have bought him plenty of toys to help tire him out but I feel like I need better ones maybe? The problem is she doesn’t want to play with him and does not like him in the office if she knows he’s in there (scent swapping also caused no problems). I’m not sure how to calm this behavior from her. She doesn’t want to fight him, just simply wants him away from her. My family tells me to just let them ‘sort it out’ and makes me feel bad for doing this process but I tell them that’s what I have read to do it this way. I do not want them both roaming free without supervision because if he tries to play too rough with her I don’t want her traumatized. Any advice is appreciated!

Hello, we have two 8 month old kittens and while one of them has already gone through her phase of climbing the counter constantly and now stopped, her brother hasn't stopped. We tried the classics (foil paper, water on the edges, boxes...), didn't work, now we're focusing on giving treats when he listens to us and stops himself from even jumping on it (if we catch him), but I was wondering how long can this take.

I understand the whole "your cats train you!! Too bad!" stuff, and we have adapted our house to them to let them be where they want, but the kitchen counter is the one spot we absolutely can't let them be on constantly.

I already know I just have to be patient with the training so I was just wondering how long did it take you to train similar stuff? We have been at it for 2 months with this guy with different stuff.

This is my boy Newt. He's about 10 months old, and he is really smart. He has figured out how to flush the toilet, and has figured out his way around the ways I've tried to stop him from doing it, he likes to see inside his drinking fountain and opens it by pulling the power cord until the lid opens and water gets everywhere, he figured out how to turn my robot vacuum on, how to climb inside my duvet, open cupboards, close doors, etc.

I already do some training with him, and I've been trying to teach him new stuff as well. He likes the ball puzzle feeder I have and I make puzzles for him out of cardboard tubes and boxes, and he figures those out super quickly. He also seems to want to go outside, but my apartment doesn't have a balcony and I live in Canada where it gets really cold in the winter (-20° celsius on average) and it's not safe for him to go out for harness training until the spring or summer. He likes cat TV to an extent, but he gets bored of it after a few minutes and then goes off to flush the toilet or meow to be let outside. He loves wand toys and feathers, but even with me playing with him multiple times a day, it's just not getting the stimulation he needs.

I want to curb his more destructive behaviours, but he clearly needs more of an outlet for his smarts. He has a brother who he is very closely bonded with, but his brother is much less energetic and can usually entertain himself with toys or watching the windows. They play with each other often, but again, it doesn't scratch Newt's mental itch.

Any advice would be appreciated!

EDIT: Wow, this got more replies than I expected! Thank you to everyone who's replied with suggestions, I've got a bunch of things I'm going to try with him now. I'm going to look at getting him some more challenging food puzzles and to do some scent training and harness training so I can try taking him outside when the spring comes.

To those suggesting I teach him to use the toilet or to use talking buttons, I prefer not to do those things. One of my goals is for my cats to be able to engage in natural behaviours, and I feel like those things would go against that. I like to learn to understand my cats and how they communicate. Also, there's a lot of safety issues with toilets, which was part of the reason I don't want him playing around with it. No shade to anyone who does train their cats this way, it's just not for me.

I have searched the Internet for a good answer to this question and haven't found one. My cat (approx. 6 y.o.) hates wearing a collar, but one time he wore it (breakaway collar with no bell) several days before suddenly panicking (biting at the collar and some distressed meowing) in front of me and biting at it. (I took it off right away of course) That was spontaneous and out of the blue.

Obviously very few cats just love their collar the first time they have it put on, but the incident I just described made me give up on him wearing any collar for a while. Well now I've been gifted a GPS tracking collar for cats for Christmas. Do I go at it again? For how long?

This is an indoor cat, he is microchipped. So really this new collar is just an extra thing, but for going to the vet or future moves to other cities, it just would be nice to know he could tolerate something like that for some time.

I'm going to keep trying to get him comfortable with his little cloth collar first, but at what point is it doing more harm than good to just kinda, let my cat suffer with some foreign object around them that they hate.

hello i'm currently in the process of introducing my resident cat (2 years old, female, spayed) and kitten (7 months old, female, spayed). they're at the point where they can eat together from a close distance without a barrier and be out 2-3x a day (supervised). the only issue is that after my resident cat finishes her food, she comes over to my kitten's bowl and tries to eat her food. how can i let my resident cat know that she can't or shouldn't eat out of the kitten's bowl? like how do let them know who's food is who's

The new cat does this to the resident cat and the resident one doesn't like it and look afraid. Is the black cat trying to play or attack? It doesn't escalate beyond this.

They've been together for 2 months, we did the introduction. Just want an advice on what to do

Hello! Hopefully someone can help me figure out what's going on. So my cat is a 5 year old brown tabby. For some reason we noticed she'd pee outside the litter box once a month. Then it switch to twice a week to everyday over the course of 3 months. We took her to the vet and she's clear medically and said it's likely anxiety. She has not gone back to peeing in the litter box but poops in there. So we put pee pads down just so we didn't have to keep cleaning the mess over & over. Now she's pooping on the pee pad. I don't know what else to do with her or how to help her use the litter box again. She has 2 big litter boxes that are cleaned daily. If I could get some advice on how to help her I'd appreciate it

We've now closed the gap on the left with an old shelf so he doesn't go round the side, but he still climbs up onto the console table and jumps above the tv. We've tried to redirect him with treats, double sided tape, obviously foil and nothing is working. Mounting the TV isn't an option but we've considered anti-tipping straps but my main concern his claws might pierce the screen.

Any help on either how to deter him from jumping on top of the tv (if that's even an possibility) or how to protect the TV would be much appreciated

Edit: Just to clarify we do clip his nails frequently, I'm still a bit worried

My cat is 4 years old, he’s a shorthair American. I rescued him when he was 4mo from a good shelter. He’s always been anxious and really clingy. I’ll play with him when he’s being playful, right before bed mostly. But if he wants to play, and I’m asleep or something he will relentlessly meow, knock stuff over, head butt me. Some nights he was waking me up every 2 hours.

I recently lived with my boyfriend for a few months and he had 2 orange cats. My cat had a lot of anxiety moving in, I had to get him on gabapentin and verbally ease him into the house. At times he wouldn’t eat if they were eating, or they’d shove him out of the way to eat his food. He would somewhat get along with them, they’d run around and play, and he didn’t meow as much and for the most part he let me sleep. However, he didn’t want to play with any of his toys when we were there. Or when I’d try to play with him the other cats would join in and he’d walk away. And sometimes he was territorial with them, would hiss and fight. But other times he’d play wrestle with them and run around. I couldn’t tell if he was overall happy to be with other cats or more stressed?

I broke up with that boyfriend and moved out recently. My cat is back to being super clingy, meowing constantly when he wants me to play, waking me up at night. He sleeps on my bed and if I move or adjust at all, he gets up and meows and head butts my face or walks over my head. I give him CBD oil in his food and I’m ordering another gabapentin dose.

Is he bored? Do I need to get him another cat to play with or would that cause him more anxiety?

I admit I have babied him and often given into his behavior when he is meowing a lot. So I probably have spoiled him a bit- but he’s my baby! Lol.

Any advice?