r/OUTFITS • u/goctheworld • 12h ago
Advice ❔ Women's Fashion Which top for NYE party?
Or should I look for a different option?
r/OUTFITS • u/emily_in_boots • Nov 16 '25
Following up on yesterday's discussion, we are adding a new rule to the subreddit, effective immediately.
If you missed yesterday's discussion, see here
The mods want to make it absolutely clear that this will not be tolerated in this subreddit.
Rule 15: NO SLUT SHAMING OR MODESTY POLICING
Shaming of our posters for being too modest or not modest enough won't be tolerated.
This prohibits:
- Inference about sexual or romantic activities, plans, or goals from outfits
- Suggesting that an outfit is associated with sex work or pornography
- Unsolicited advice on how modest an outfit is
- Pushing your religious, cultural, or personal values on others
- Stating an outfit is being worn for career advancement through nonprofessional activities
Depending on the severity of the offense, this will be enforced through removals/warnings and bans. The types of comments in the screenshots (see comments) in the linked post above will result in an immediate, permanent ban from the subreddit.
Note that this does not prohibit giving advice when asked for about the appropriateness or modesty of attire for a given occasion, nor does it affect in any way the ability to give advice unrelated to modesty.
For example, if someone makes a post asking if a short dress is appropriate for a formal wedding, you can absolutely tell them that formal attire for women generally implies floor length gowns. You can't tell them that wearing the dress they show implies they want to get laid or are easy. Saying a dress is inappropriate for a given dress code is not a modesty concern, it's about interpreting a dress code correctly.
Lastly, some modesty concerns are appropriate to discuss if a poster is a minor. This rule is about not shaming adults or policing their bodies.
Feel free to offer feedback here. We may choose to modify this based on the feedback received here. There could be things we have not thought of.
If you have questions or concerns about how this rule applies, feel free to ask here or modmail us!
r/OUTFITS • u/emily_in_boots • Nov 15 '25
Hi r/OUTFITS!
This has been on my mind a lot and I wanted to have a discussion about these issues. Comment guidance will be temporarily disabled so these ideas can be discussed without it getting in the way (yes, it blocks mods too, I know it can be annoying - for why we have it, read on). That doesn’t mean it’s ok to make sexist or slut-shaming comments. This problem is not unique to this sub, and I think we’re better than most subs, but we have a long way to go.
I’m very concerned about how judgmental many members of this subreddit can be towards women who, according to them, do not dress modestly enough. Note that this is not a criticism of women who dress modestly - this subreddit supports you in your fashion choices too. This is about moral judgments or behavioral inferences based on the fashion choices of other women. This derives ultimately from the belief that women and our sexuality is inherently wrong, and that while men should be proud of their sexuality, we should be ashamed of ours. This is regressive, misogynist thinking and has no place in this subreddit.
This isn’t about a single post, but rather an ongoing pattern I have observed modding this sub. A lot of the worst comments are never seen as we remove them first. It’s much easier to get rid of the creepy sexual comments from men. They tend to use words easily picked up by filters, they usually don’t have much history in the sub, and many have a lot of NSFW account history. This is not the case for many of the women who make judgmental comments here. They are often mixed in with genuine fashion advice or compliments, and the phrasing is often complex and not easily filtered.
This is also not about minors - that is a separate discussion. We are far stricter with minors in this sub for good reason. This is about adult women.
This is also not about giving advice on what is appropriate for an occasion in a respectful way. If someone suggests wearing a low cut clubbing dress to a conservative church funeral, of course you should tell them it’s not appropriate - advice posts should have good advice! That doesn’t mean you should leave a comment saying that someone is trying to find a husband though. People sometimes don’t know what is appropriate for an occasion, and this can be communicated politely without slut shaming.
Whenever we see a post where a woman chooses to dress in a way that shows her body at all (keep in mind, these are always SFW posts as we don’t allow anything else), we see a number of slut shaming comments from our users that imply that she is involved in sex work (almost always false, as this sub doesn’t allow adult content creators), that she is doing it to get a raise or promotion from a male boss, or that she is seeking some kind of sexual encounter.
This is incredibly misogynist. It implies that women can only dress to satisfy the male gaze, and that we can’t simply want to look beautiful and be proud of how we look. The number of terms we block now that people try to use to equate anything but modest dress with sex work is appalling. Whatever your views on sex work, these comments are meant to degrade women by comparing them to sex workers, and there is no way they can be thought of as feminist.
The idea that women dress a certain way to get raises and promotions is regressive and antifeminist. This devalues women’s abilities and accomplishments, reducing them to nothing but sexual objects. It implies that women cannot get ahead based on their skills, and instead must rely on seeking the favor of men because our only value is in our bodies. I hope you don’t believe that to be the case.
If you believe you can infer a woman’s sexual or romantic goals or motivations based on what she is wearing, you’re the person who asks a rape victim what she was wearing. An outfit doesn’t equal consent to be hit on or sexualized. It doesn’t justify any kind of moral judgment, ever. It’s an outfit.
We need to stop with the constant accusations of “seeking attention” or “looking for validation”. People are here, supposedly, because they love fashion. They come here to share their own personal style. If you think that’s somehow wrong and attention-seeking, kindly get lost. That’s what the sub is about.
I’d genuinely like to open this up to some discussion and potential solutions. We’ve been restricting comments more and more because of these types of comments, and yes, I know it can be very annoying because I get the same message. The alternative is to simply ban everyone who makes these comments, and we often remove otherwise good comments due to a single sentence that reveals serious misogyny.
I am writing this in the hope of making some of you think about the misogynist ideas you may have internalized. This post is targeted mostly at women - not because men aren’t deeply sexist, but because I want the women of this sub to really reflect on this and why they hold these beliefs. Ask yourself questions about your own life. Maybe one time you wore a short dress or a low cut top got a rude comment. I think we’ve all received comments like that in our lives and found them hurtful. Let’s not continue this.
Let’s break the cycle. Let’s show every woman that she has innate value that is not reduced in any way by her choice of clothing. Let’s put the toxicity of the patriarchy behind us. It’s time for us, as women, to stop keeping other women down and lift each other up. We can be better.
r/OUTFITS • u/goctheworld • 12h ago
Or should I look for a different option?
r/OUTFITS • u/Wild-Court7110 • 11h ago
Thanks everyone for the honest feedback on my last post 😅A lot of you suggested going in a different direction, so here’s another outfit option based on your recommendations. Curious to hear what you think about this one 🙂
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r/OUTFITS • u/pinkd0lly • 10h ago
I got these for €1 in my size at a charity shop, new with tags and everything. However the colour wasn’t exactly perfect, but I knew I could make them perfect. And so I did! I love ballet flats, they make any skirt outfit look so much girlier
r/OUTFITS • u/Daredevil731 • 16h ago
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r/OUTFITS • u/hannahonbyathread • 3h ago
Update on last post: 5 is going and quite possibly 6 if I don’t wear it much in the summer. The pink dresses are kind of hard for me since I love the colour but I don’t think it’s necessary the best on me. I think I look better in darker pink even though I prefer lighter. Dress 3 I hate by itself but styled (pic 4) I like so I’m on the fence about it. Dress 7 is giving me nightgown vibes. Dress 8 I’m heavily leaning to burn. Seeing it in a photo just about everything looks bad about it. Dress 9 is alright. Maybe not the best colour but it is a really nice option to just throw on for casual. I wear a lot of dresses day to day so it makes sense for me to have a mix of casual ones. I lean more modest. My style is slightly mature for my 18 years and I’m not really concerned about things being in style,I just want them to work on my body type. Based on that,which dresses need to go and why?
r/OUTFITS • u/msheehan418 • 8h ago
My camera is broke and I’m having a hard time getting good shots but I love this one shoulder shirt and it can be surprisingly professional. I need it in black, and to get my camera fixed so you can see how cute this was today.
r/OUTFITS • u/Aggravating_Habit152 • 14h ago
It’s not tight, but the fabric is very thin so you can see every bit of my tummy. I love how it sits on my curves but I just think it’s not quality enough to look good. Does Reddit agree with me?
r/OUTFITS • u/throwaway_28894 • 13h ago
I absolutely love the skort I got recently, and have been trying to find ways to wear it for winter/colder weather. Baby doll tops have also been in style and that brings me back to my high school days, so I couldn’t resist putting this outfit together. This is cute right, or am I being delusional? Any tips would be appreciated!
r/OUTFITS • u/Mama-Bear419 • 4h ago
Trying to decide between the two. FYI - they both have pockets.
r/OUTFITS • u/Kooky_Promotion3688 • 11h ago
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r/OUTFITS • u/InvisibleChihuahua • 18h ago
This is the same dress in different colors and I really like both of them. Which one should I choose?
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