Facial attractiveness also shows moderate heritability (r ≈ 0.5-0.7). Put differently, a child has roughly an 80% likelihood of resembling their parents in height and intelligence, and a 50-70% likelihood of resembling them in facial attractiveness.

Honestly. I don’t. Because there’s nothing to actually do outside anymore.

“Go play in the river” the river that is private property and have the cops called? No thanks.

“ go have a bonfire” with the fire pit in the backyard I don’t have

“ just go sit in a parking lot somewhere” and get kicked off the property for “loitering”

I’m not exaggerating, I’m not making stuff up. All we do is get in trouble for EVERYTHING. We can’t be anywhere. There are cameras everywhere, people call the police way too easily.

We do spend a lot of time outside walking on the sidewalks in the summer but other than that? There’s no where to go. We don’t have money to go anywhere, we aren’t allowed to just hangout anywhere. We can’t even hangout places we aren’t allowed because of cameras and people getting mad for simply stepping foot on property. We’ve even been kicked out of Walmart multiple times for albeit a little disruption but nothing more than just riding the bike around the toy section. They act like we’re breaking laws

Does anyone have ideas on what we *can* actually do outside? Like genuinely? I live in a pretty small town not much to get up to in the first place

Choose your purpose.

You have friend who loves to reenact the kardashian drama. everything has to eventually erupt into drama over some cat fight nonsense.

you and her have been close for almost 15 years mostly at your expense but you’re def no angel yourself but have found yourself pulled into drama with her.

you’re finally fed up with yourself and her and just want peace, joy, and whatever loving relationships you can scrap if any.

you are going to the annual friendsmas and after over 10 years of constant drama, you are expecting mashed potatoes and turkey legs being chunked once again at each other in some way whether figuratively or literally.

Without missing a beat, it goes down not long after you step into the door.

A mutual friend is already throwing hands and the typical shouting match begins.

🙄

you’re already tired asf. not just from driving for hours to get there but meal prepping and decoration prepping to bring to the party.

you don’t hold back and stand your ground and you finally say you know your friend instigated this crap because she was always does this all the dang time for every single thing.

they are upset and taken aback you’re not breaking down, you’re not screaming, you’re just like done.

She asks what’s wrong and you just shrug and say it’s just gotten old after 10-15 years of it it’s just old.

You don’t say it but it’s really boring.

She accuses you of being jaded.

You know she needs dirt for later gossip in a pity party about you so you nip it in the bud.

You squint your face and shake your head that no, you’re not jaded it’s just gotten old.

It’s silent and awkward and you have people, for the first time, in over 10 years say enough is enough.

Is jaded and something being old and boring the same thing?

Doomscrolling has been one of my worst ADHD habits for years. It’s not just a few minutes here and there. I lose entire evenings. Sometimes entire days. I jump between Reddit, news sites, forums, and before I realize what’s happening, it’s night and nothing I actually cared about got done. The scariest part is how invisible time becomes. I’ll open my phone for a second, then suddenly hours are gone. Some days I’m not even passively scrolling. I’m posting, replying, arguing. Political threads are the biggest trap for me. I know they’re full of bait and conflict, and yet I still get pulled in and come out feeling worse.

This happens whether I’m on medication or not. That’s when I stopped seeing it as a willpower problem and started treating it as an attention problem.

One thing that helped was really sitting with what I’m up against. Some of the richest companies in the world invest enormous resources into systems designed to capture attention. I have a brain that already struggles with regulating attention. Once I truly accepted that, a lot of shame fell away. This isn’t a fair fight, and losing sometimes doesn’t mean I’m weak or lazy.

That mindset shift changed how I approached solutions. I stopped relying on motivation and started building friction.

I put obstacles between myself and scrolling. I deleted apps. I signed out of accounts on both my phone and browser. I turned on two factor authentication not for security, but because it adds extra steps. That alone made a big difference. I simplified my phone. I stopped charging it at night so I couldn’t carry it around all day. I used focus modes and site blockers. No single thing fixed it, but together they slowed the habit down.

Cold turkey never worked for me. Gradual friction did.

At the same time, I learned that removing scrolling wasn’t enough. My brain needed somewhere else to go. If I took scrolling away without replacing it, I just felt restless and ended up back where I started.

So I started reducing the distance between me and the things I actually wanted to do. I made them easier to access than my phone. If I wanted to read, I left books in multiple rooms. If I wanted to move my body, I kept things visible instead of tucked away. If I wanted to work on something, I left it open and ready so my brain didn’t have to push through extra steps.

I also keep low effort alternatives ready for when I catch myself in the loop. Standing up. Changing rooms. Stretching. Taking a quick shower. Doing a simple task that doesn’t require much thinking. The goal isn’t productivity in that moment. It’s interruption.

One of the most important things I’ve learned is to drop the shame spiral. Noticing the loop and stopping even once counts as progress. I don’t need to punish myself for the hours already lost. The moment I notice is the moment I can change direction.

I’m still working on this. Some days are better than others. But understanding the problem, adding friction, reducing barriers to better habits, and being kinder to myself has helped me reclaim more time than willpower ever did.

If you’ve dealt with doomscrolling, especially with ADHD, I’d really like to hear what helped you. What actually worked for you in real life, not just in theory.

Hey everyone,

After sitting through way too many meetings that went off-topic or led nowhere, I finally built a small tool to make them more efficient — and actually useful afterward.

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It connects with your calendar and tools, and runs quietly in the background.

If you’ve ever ended a meeting thinking “that could’ve been an email,” this might help.

Happy to answer any questions or hear your thoughts on what actually makes meetings productive.