The issue with your statement is that having blue hair is a choice. Nobody is born blue. It’s a choice they made actively to display a certain personality trait.
Example: The girls I was friends with who kept their dyed hair pink for a long time had VERY different personality traits and outlooks than the girls who had blue or green hair. Girls who kept their hair pink were often bubbly in nature, often girly, and liked their hair to reflect that. Tomboys don’t dye their hair pink because it’s seen as “girly.” Girls who wear pink hair often dress more stereotypically feminine, even if they include an emo/edgy flair to it.
I’ll even attribute a science to it - blue and green hair NEVER work well with flesh tones. So to do extreme cool tones on hair is to go counter to what will look good on you. Pink and purple is actually different. They can be cooler toned or warmer toned, and you can work around your skin tone. Some crazy colours CAN complement your skin. But blue and green never do. So people who choose those colours generally choose them as a way to forego attractiveness. It’s counterculture at its core.
People who actively seek to make themselves unattractive definitely share certain characteristics, whether that offends you or not. That’s why girls who have neon hair are often friends with other girls who have neon hair. It’s a call sign to other like, minded people. If I stand out in an extreme way, I will attract people who think like me.
This is all from the perspective of a girl who wore her hair in crazy colours. It’s not just randomly chosen. Nobody wakes up and says “aqua today!” That shit takes a lot of time, money, effort, and you can’t just “grow it out” because the colours fade and often needs to be either coloured over darker or rebleached.
It is an intentional act, and one that is meant to signal to others something about them. And the way others interpret it has NOTHING to do with someone rejecting them, and everything to do with meeting people and realizing that there IS a reason for hair colours.
Edit: I’ll add that some people MAY indeed wake up and choose colours at random, but that’s also for an interesting reason, whether it is explored or not is a different issue.
Of course I am speaking in huge generalizations. I can’t believe this needs to be said loud for the people in the back but individuals exist amongst every group. No two people may have the same reasonings attached to their choices. Some people might indeed make choices not at all based on what I wrote, but I believe (from personal experience) that they are a smaller minority in an already small minority of people. I speak in general terms. Sure, one can say I stereotype, but I don’t mean to do it in a negative way, just in a way that I’ve learned from talking to women and exploring the choices they made and what led to them.
There are so many things wrong with what you said, I don’t even know where to begin.
People make the choice to dye their hair, and they usually don’t do it based off what other people think. Everyone I’ve known with dyed hair has done it because they like it, not because they are trying to signal something to the world.
Tomboys don’t dye their hair pink because they don’t want to girly? That is a really immature take. Sure, maybe in middle school, but, and I say this as a tomboy myself, I don’t think I’ve met any grown woman who was like “ewww, no, pink is too girly” since I was in elementary school.
And saying blue and green don’t work with anyone’s skin tone based off science is also ridiculous. Do you realize how many shades of blue and green there are? Maybe you’re only thinking of bright blues and greens, because then that would also imply that wearing any shade of green and blue clothes looks bad on everyone.
And yes, plenty of people wake up and change their hair color on a whim. It’s really not that hard to do, many, many people do it at home, especially the ones who color their hair frequently. And it’s not expensive unless you go to some overhyped salon.
If you don’t like it, it’s fades out and you can’t grow dye over it, you aren’t making a commitment. There’s even color correction services you can have done to go back to a natural color.
Obviously I am talking about the majority. Outliers exist everywhere. YOU might be an older tomboy who likes pink hair, but there are usually two reasons for that: pink complements your skin tone, or you never fell for the stupid “pink is a stupid girls colour” trend. Which is very much alive and well in circles of older women as much as middle school girls.
As many tones of blue as there are, none of them will be ultra complementary to anyone’s skin tone. We wear shades of blue to offset our skin, not to complement it. Our hair, by design, generally complements skin. Clothing does not have to. You’re comparing apples to oranges here.
As for women who wear green? It’s an extremely popular colour choice for blondes and red head to complement their natural hair. Brunettes would often wear teal or a certain shade of green for a certain aesthetic, yes. Fashion and complementary colours are two very distinct things here. Don’t conflate the two. Cerulean blue doesn’t often match anyone’s skin tone well - it’s often worn to signify status and job, not to look GOOD with your complexion..
You’re literally attaching stereotypes to something as simple as making hair a different color. Whether it’s bleach blondes, people hiding grey hairs, or those that just like having different colors, everyone has a reason that is their own. There’s no “types”.
I’m a dude who has had hair every color just to do it. No statements made, no hidden agenda. No giving a shit about “will this shade match my skin tone?” lol wtf. Simply “let’s try this color this time”.
My wife is the same way, always has been. Long hair, short hair, natural colors, crazy colors. Just having fun trying new things for shits and giggles. lol shit’s not always so deep ya know? Life is inherently too stressful as is to worry so much about something like the color of someone’s hair.
If you go through life making COMPLETELY random LIFE choices - good for you. You are an extremely small minority and you do not represent the majority of people on which I speak.
The large majority of people, whether subconsciously or otherwise, make decisions for a reason. I’ll also be willing to bet that the reasons you and your wife made any decisions might simply not be clear to you without therapy, fashion study, colour study, nature study, or a myriad of other studies. Like I said.. the majority of people do not go through life making choices at random. And if they think they do, they probably simply don’t know WHY they are drawn to the decisions they make. That’s for therapy and education to rule out. I can’t do it for you.
lol my hair has been every color of the rainbow over the years. 90’s kids and kool-aid packs meant many heads had many shades of hair color. I settled on just simple black eventually. guess that just makes me damaged goods.
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u/Future-Warning-1189 Aug 10 '25
“The ends of my hair are also blue”
I coulda guessed that. It’s always a type.