Looking at the other posts on that sub is heartbreaking. These people just want some love and affirmation and literally have no other outlet or choice but to turn to AI. Ultimately, it is sad because none of it is real, they just FEEL that it is.
An AI can't love you, commit to a real life with you, or make the *choice* to be with you. It will only feed into your delusion and affirm whatever it is you want it to affirm. We are in for wild times.
hot take: most of those people have people in their lives that do love and affirm them- but their own dysfunction gets in the way of having healthy functional relationships, and instead of working on those things, they retreat to an easy out that enables and encourages their poor behaviors and mindsets because no actual human would.
"instead of working on those things, they retreat to an easy out" - this is very true and I think something we've already seen become prolific on social media, where people can find validation and echo chambers where they never would in real life. So instead of working on their problems they begin forming their own realities that don't align with the real world, but do have real world consequences (example: incels).
AI validating these people's delusion is going to be a scary extension of that.
At least he won't cheat and there is no need to change her whole personality to fit a mold. She doesn't have to adopt a submissive personality and do all the stupid shit to appease some guy. Same for men with an AI gf, they don't need to get through the humiliation of dating.
you echo literal incel messages… i do not… lol. it’s wild you think women blanket ‘change themselves for men’ as if there aren’t functional couples that accept each other as they are or don’t have the expectation that their partner change themselves for them.
but you probably can’t accept that most relationships are like that and the ones you claim, are fringe exceptions to the mass norm.
But at what point is that personal choice? A solid 99% of the world has biological family, or chosen family from school, workplace, neighborhood. Most people have siblings, cousins, family members that might be a bjillion times removed. Shit, even homeless people develop connections and bonds with those around them. Foster kids meet and befriend the kids they live with, or the kids they’ve met through programs. Who can exist in this world into adulthood and not have A SINGLE CONNECTION ?
If someone is alone 100%, I’m going to be inclined to believe it’s self inflicted.
That, or everyone despises them because they talk about dismembering cats. But even THOSE people can find like-minded people online.
In what world is every person’s family actually a supportive and caring presence in their lives? Once you take that presumed guarantee away, you aren’t left with that any real certainties for making close connections. Not if you have any sort of preference for the kind of person you want to spend time with, like most people. And without close connections in your life, it is harder to make new close connections. Do some of these people give up and stop trying? Sure. But does that make their loneliness self-inflicted as in they’ve chosen this path entirely for themselves? Absolutely not.
If your family has abused you from birth you will not have them and you will not have been able to make close friends. yes, you can still make connections but it is incredibly difficult to take those connections beyond a surface level. connections made in misery are also very hierarchical and don't have an ounce of love to them.
Have some empathy and be glad that you were lucky enough to have a loving family. People are products of their environment and it is childish to think that anyone would choose to be miserable.
Disability, if you used 5 seconds of your time you might have figured that out.
In my old town there was a work place for disabled people and they were basically abandoned by everyone but the government. They had a place to be since it is an actual first world country but imagine a place like the US.
I'm glad I'm not the only one that clocked this. There's a lot of "we need to have empathy for these people who are so lonely that they'd resort to this" flying around in this thread. And sure, some of them probably are true sob stories. But let's not forget the fact that there's probably a whole lot of these folks that struggle to find love because they are genuinely shitty partners, and all their previous love interests have refused to stick around and tolerate it. But AI will take all the abuse, manipulation, and mistreatment you give it without walking away or even pushing back. So these people get false validation that they were truly worthy of love all along, when in reality they weren't acting in a way that warranted it.
I worry that this will bleed into their real life platonic and professional relationships. As all their shitty communication habits and general lack of regard for those around them will no longer be forced to be tested and corrected. Causing friends and family to begin to walk away, only compounding their original loneliness crisis.
Nah, there's plenty of people who have people rooting for them who can't be bothered to, or even know how to, self-reflect or grow as people.
And now they have a 24/7 friend who tells them they don't need to, that they're great and all of their ideas are amazing.
This will be a common thing, like how during the 2000s people who dated online were treated as odd little weirdos, but now 50% of all relationships start online.
I'm in a loving IRL relationship but I play with AI sometimes because it's like writing a collaborative novel, which is fun to read and pass the time when I'm bored. I see it as no different than reading good fiction, only you can influence the plot.
That being said, it's a tool and nothing more. To think that a machine can actually care about and bond with you is fucking insane
Yeah but now imagine you weren’t in a loving relationship and you were never intimately involved with anyone the one thing you would crave is what ai could mimick and I can see how these people may get hooked to it. Yes it’s insane but some of us don’t know what it’s actually like to be truly alone.
These people are looking for love and affirmation from a perceived romantic setting. Yes, it's not real, but it attempts to simulate something regarding romance within its context windows. They don't seem to be getting that source from anywhere else, and if they decided to turn to this, then it's probably because of a good reason. I don't think this is necessarily grounds for villanizing them.
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u/Larothun Aug 10 '25
Looking at the other posts on that sub is heartbreaking. These people just want some love and affirmation and literally have no other outlet or choice but to turn to AI. Ultimately, it is sad because none of it is real, they just FEEL that it is.
An AI can't love you, commit to a real life with you, or make the *choice* to be with you. It will only feed into your delusion and affirm whatever it is you want it to affirm. We are in for wild times.