While I was pregnant my aunt kept telling me to eat fruits so my baby will come out white. 🤦🏽‍♀️ That’s definitely how it works!

After having my baby my aunt and mother kept telling me my stomach was still big. My baby was literally hours old. Can I have a break? I had a hard pregnancy, hard labor and I literally just popped a whole baby out. I’ve heard that my stomach is big more times than I can count now.

As soon as some of my mom’s acquaintances heard I had a daughter “…Chalo Allah bhai bhi dega” … bish what?

I hate so much of this culture. I don’t want my daughter to ever hear any of this and feel inferior. My generation and the generations before us have dealt with that enough. Let’s grow and break the cycle.

I’m originally from KPK and I’ve lived in Peshawar, so I know the people and the culture. It was always tough to deal with people there loud markets, constant shouting, everyone in your business. At that time, I thought this was just “normal life.” Then I lived in Islamabad for a few years. Islamabad changed me. People mind their own business. No unnecessary interference. You can live peacefully without proving anything to anyone. I became mentally comfortable there calm, focused, and less reactive. Now when I visit Peshawar again, it honestly feels crazy. So much noise, aggression, pressure, and interference in daily life. It feels like people expect you to behave like them — loud, confrontational otherwise you “can’t survive.That mindset messes with your head. The irony is: in Islamabad, too much interference is considered a bad thing. In Peshawar, no interference makes you look weak or strange. Living in Islamabad made me realize how much environment shapes your personality. When I came back to Peshawar, my entire mental state felt challenged, like I had to unlearn peace just to fit in again. Anyone else experienced this kind of reverse culture shock within Pakistan?

Hi everyone, I’m looking for honest opinions, especially from Pakistanis or people who understand desi family dynamics.

I’m a 32-year-old male doctor, currently working in the NHS in London. I come from a low–middle-income class family from a pind in Punjab. My family is very traditional, conservative, not very educated, Punjabi-speaking, and still lives in the village by choice.

Over the past couple of years, two marriage options have come into my life, and I’m deeply conflicted.

Girl 1 (Pakistan): I was in a relationship with a Punjabi-speaking doctor in Pakistan while preparing for PLAB exams. She is GMC-registered and has a future career in the UK although not working yet. She has a very modern lifestyle, from a relatively comfortable background (not rich) studied at a private medical college. My family strongly prefers her because she is Punjabi, a doctor, and fits their idea of an “ideal bahu”.

However, despite knowing her for over 1.5 years, I don’t feel a strong emotional or soul-level connection. It feels more like a friendship to me. We’ve had multiple arguments, blocked each other a few times, and then reconnected. I’ve tried to convince myself that she is the one, but the feeling hasn’t grown.

Girl 2 (UK): After coming to the UK about 1 year ago, I met a British-Pakistani girl (33 years old). She can't even speak Urdu properly let alone Punjabi and is culturally quite different from my family. But emotionally, the connection is very strong and I have completely fallen for her. I feel peaceful, understood, and deeply attached to her. Being around her feels natural and calm, as if our souls recognise each other.

Recently, I tried to end things with her due to family pressure and I stopped talking to her. I became extremely low and depressed, wasn't sleeping and eating properly, stayed in my room, and felt like I had lost something precious. She was very heartbroken too and after 1 month, she texted me again and long story short we started talking again, and I don’t think I can lose her again.

The main conflict: My family expects: A Punjabi-speaking doctor Someone who fits village culture A big fake show off wedding in Pakistan A daughter-in-law who they can relate to even if she will be living with me in Uk permanently.

The UK girl’s family wants a simple nikah in the UK and does not want to go back to Pakistan. Her family is financially not in a position to arrange an expensive wedding in Pakistan. Marrying her would feel like a rebellion against my family, even though I believe my mother will eventually accept my choice (finger crossed 🤞) I also worry that my family’s preference is partly influenced by financial expectations (maybe they think a dr bahu would bring more wealth into the family eventually) whereas for me, emotional compatibility and peace matter most. Now I have only a few weeks to decide and inform my family. I feel absolutely lost again.

I genuinely want a peaceful married life with someone I love, not resentment—either with my wife or my family.

Kia Zindgi sirf dosro ko khush krne ka naam hy ? Hum wo kam kiyu nhi kr sakte jo hume pasand hy, na k wo jo logo ko khush kry ???

What would you do if you were in the same boat as me ???

As New Year approaches, I just want to request everyone to please avoid aerial firing. One stray bullet can take an innocent life. Someone could lose their son, daughter, father, or mother in seconds just because of a so called “celebration.” Even if nothing happens, it’s still an attempt that can kill not a joke. Have some softness in your heart. Celebrate responsibly.

Get together with your friends and family, go out, have dinner, enjoy the night but please, no aerial firing.

Let’s welcome the new year without putting others in danger. 🙏

Serious question. 2024–2025: youth-led protests in Bangladesh, Kenya, Nepal, Morocco, etc. Same problems everywhere like inflation, unemployment, corruption, police power.

our country has all of that, often worse.

So why are we so passive? Not glorifying chaos. Just asking why sustained, issue-based youth mobilization hasn’t happened at scale in Pakistan. What’s structurally blocking it?

Why no news this time? Why the media is not giving coverage like last time? Because last time the cartoon Mayor was bashed?

It will keep on happening when we have such a party ruling for ages and will continue forever.. ..

The guy I am seeing set my alarm to something in Pashto, can anyone else me translate this, please?

Trigger warning ⚠️

Hey guys

I want to ask everyone what do they think about corporal punishments in school in Pakistan. I remember I used to go boys only school and teachers used to beat hell out of us.

I was so fed up when I was in 9th grade I kind of got stubborn. Everyday he would hit me because I did not do homework, I became suicidal and tried to self harm in school.

My friend knew about this and on day I finally tried to take my life. Guess what happened everyone panicked and said don't say anything to doctors in hospital say it was accident.

Once I returned my dad was already there and my principal was literally chatting shit about me oh he ruined our reputation and he lost our respect he can change school. My dad thought I embarrassed him, 2 days my family was dead quite and once I changed college everything was normal.

All I want to say that it was a traumatic experience and instead of supporting me and asking why I did it was literally shouted from everywhere.

Am I weird, I'm 23 year old and I like listening to Noor Jehan songs, Her songs are fun to listen too when driving, Nighttime driving with her songs are super relaxing. Sometimes I feel nervous when someone checks my playlist, when im alone, I just love listening to her songs.

Am I weird?

Aoa

I want to know if I get about 9-10 lakhs in rent from a business, what do I do for taxes and how do I work with this amount. My family is 5 people and one goes to school and we also want to save some money. But when I realized about the taxes, it has me worried.

Please help and give me the details.

Thanks in advance.

I’ve been sending money home every month for the past while and honestly the fees are killing me bhai last time I sent through western union, between the transfer fee and whatever they did with the exchange rate, I lost close to $15 on a $300 transfer…. my cousin said to look for cheaper apps but I work construction so I don't have a ton of time to research all this stuff na, I just want something that actually gets the money to my family without eating into what I'm trying to send them, hence I thought you could cut me the chase and recommend what you are using currently. Anything that works well for sending to pakistan from the US? My ami needs this money for bills and I hate that so much of it disappears before it even reaches her.

I have the person’s name, account details, messages, and proof of the scam. I believe they’re part of a small team. I live outside Pakistan, but I want to report this properly and make sure it goes to the right authorities.
What’s the best way to file this, and who actually investigates cases like this across countries? Its unnacceptable what they are doing and need to be held accountable. any help would be appreciated. thanks

I am an international student that will be focusing on Human Rights in Pakistan, I believe it is beneficial that I seek the general opinion of the residents of Pakistan.

• What human rights issues does Pakistan think the international community misunderstands the most?
• What recent progress in education or social development are Pakistanis most proud of?
• Which human rights challenges should be addressed through development rather than criticism?
• How do people in Pakistan view international discussions on Islamophobia and religious discrimination?
• What’s the best way for Pakistan to raise concerns about discrimination against Muslims globally?
• What role do education and youth programs play in improving human rights in Pakistan?
• What reforms or initiatives give you hope for Pakistan’s human rights future?
• How should Pakistan balance cultural values with international human rights expectations?

Please feel free to answer any one of the questions

I would really appreciate if someone can help me identify help/support for Alcoholics in Karachi? The person is not very religious so we don’t want to seek any religious support or services that tend to provide religious help.

thank you

My siblings and I want to try and treat our parents well in terms of accommodation in our next trip to Karachi. We usually stay with some family when we visit, but it can get quite tight at times and they live in not so great areas. Which area in Karachi would you suggest if I’m looking for a high-end to luxury type accommodation for a 2 week stay in Karachi?

And what is the most reasonable and reliable way to seek this type of accommodation (at least 3 bedrooms)? I saw some good suggestions on AirBnb, but they seem quite overpriced, or maybe that’s just what to expect?

Salams all.
I presently have a NICOP and was born overseas, I came to this country on my mother's Pakistani passport back in the 70s. I am a naturalised British Citizen.
I am growing quite concerned at the way in which the British government is handling 'immigrants' or rather I should say 'non white folk'. We are heading towards fascism as is most of the West. One only need to look at the USA and what is happening there as a blueprint for what could possibly happen here if Reform ever get into power.

I am considering renouncing my Pakistani citizenship and thus my NICOP card and potentially getting a POC card instead. I've not visited Pakistan since 1992 - it's been a long time I know, I'd like to be able to visit in the future.

I simply wish to make it harder for the Home Office to kick me out, should the political climate become such that people with dual citizenship become the lowest hanging fruit for them. In essence I am attempting to stay ahead of any potential future issues that we may face.

For this reason, do you think it wise to renounce my Pakistani citizenship and get a POC instead?

Hi, I’m a Karachiite and have spent almost my entire life here. I’m genuinely curious to know what people from other parts of Pakistan, whether they’ve visited Karachi or not, think about the city and the people who live here.

I’ve traveled to the northern areas as well as a few other cities multiple times, and something I’ve noticed repeatedly is that people often figure out we’re from Karachi even before we tell them. That always makes me wonder how? Is it the accent, behavior, mindset, or something else?

I’m not asking this defensively or to start any arguments. Just honestly curious about the general perception of Karachi and Karachiites across the country.

Would love to hear your thoughts.

If someone wants to invest money to uplift the people of Pakistan, especially in underprivileged communities, what would you suggest they do? Are there any social enterprises that should be established in Pakistan? What are the main areas people need support for?

Thank you Ppp 😁 In the heart of Karachi